A little while back I posted abt my DD having had a fallout with friends, but there being a bit of a recurring issue with her feeling like the ‘spare’ in the friendship group...I think I only had one reply ☹️ Well, here I am trying again...my 14 yo made up with the friendship after the last episode, but only when she apologised for not actually doing anything wrong. She’s come home today and though it’s not as a result of arguments this time, she’s basically just ‘spilled’ out that she’s still feeling pretty much the same in that they laugh at her lunches (she’s trying to lose weight at the mo), still constantly walk in a 3 so she walks in front or behind them, don’t call her to sit with them during a free period (though don’t seem to leave each other sit alone in the same situation), just to name a few things she said. My dd is definitely over sensitive on times, but I can see her point of view and how this is making her feel. That said, after the last ‘argument’ I told her she needed to stop being so nice all the time, stop trying to please them to her own detriment and to perhaps branch out her friendships. Today on hearing much the same of what she’s told me before I felt hugely frustrated with her. She’s not taken on board any of my advice and I’m afraid I have little patience with people who behave the way her mates do and so would happily tell them to f*off....but she won’t! She seems intent on hanging on to the friendship, but I’m fed up of hearing how upset/frustrated she feels when she’s not actually doing anything about it. I appreciate this may make me sound uncaring, but it’s not that at all. I want her to see she’s worth more than she believes and feel I’ve done everything in my power to try and do that....but she has a lack of confidence which won’t allow her to do anything about it. So what do I do?! Do I keep my nose out and continue to listen/offer sensible advice? Or is there some other suggestion you can offer from fellow teen mums who may have had experienced similar? I’m at a loss really. I’m a very different character from my daughter and so it’s frustrating that she can’t deal with things the way I would. HELP!