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Panic attacks and Work

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Daphnesmate · 11/02/2020 13:02

Hi,

I realise this is related to mental health but I'm posting here for more traffic. Basically, unfortunately, I experience panic attacks/anxiety and I am looking to get back into work on a very part-time basis. I have been employed full-time, customer facing but on the telephone. Can I ask you, if you experience panic attacks what work do you do? I would like to earn a small income and be amongst a few people, probably something admin based and only a few mornings. I realise this is a lot to ask, but just getting a gauge of whether this is realistic. I think it would help my self esteem and also help me confront my anxiety which unfortunately, I have battled for most of my life ( manged to attain a degree but never used because of stress etc.)

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Meruem · 11/02/2020 13:50

Many years ago now, I suffered from such bad panic attacks that I became completely agoraphobic for a while. It took some time to get under control but I went on to work full time with no major issues. I do still get panicky some times if I have to sit somewhere where there's no escape! So for example, middle seats in a cinema. But I find as long as there is an "exit route" I can keep calm. So the way I dealt with it at work was to say to myself that if I felt bad I'd just go to the loo to calm down, take a few deep breaths etc.

Honestly I think working helped me. Over time there were bigger and bigger gaps between me suffering panicky feelings. It really built my confidence. So I would say go for it.

Meruem · 11/02/2020 13:51

Sorry, didn't answer what my job was! It was office based. I think its a good environment to go for in your situation.

Daphnesmate · 11/02/2020 13:59

Thanks Meruem. Yes, that was my thinking. I have been a sahm for years now and next year I want to get a part-time job. I feel a bit sad because I think that I will probably never realise my potential (whatever that might be) but I am making up for it in some other ways such as a creative hobby. I think most of the pressure comes from myself and from a parent whose mantra was you could do better. Interestingly enough, there are a few threads about written by people who are stressed in their workplace. It's just getting the right balance/setting. And well done Muruem for overcoming your panic/making it much less.

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Daphnesmate · 11/02/2020 17:41

So many mixed emotions about living with anxiety.

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firesong · 11/02/2020 17:49

I worked office based for years whilst having panic attacks (still do, but infrequently).

If you go for a larger company they will have decent awareness of mental health and will hopefully be supportive.

I have found the very best course of action is to explain it to my boss when I am feeling fine. I tell them the truth: it's not the workload or the people, sometimes this just happens to me (I have certain triggers which I explain - like meetings or claustrophobic situations in which I feel "stuck"). I tell them that I want to go to all meetings I am required in anyway, but there is a chance that sometimes I will take a quick breather, excusing myself to the ladies or something.

Good luck OP.

Daphnesmate · 11/02/2020 18:15

Thanks Firesong x

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BelfastSmile · 11/02/2020 19:19

I do freelance web and software development. It's handy as it pays really well, so I don't do many hours (kids are still small, so I don't have many free hours anyway). I'm basically self-taught for a lot of it.

Daphnesmate · 11/02/2020 20:18

I don't think this is going to be easy. Even part-time admin jobs seem to ask for a lot these days. I had to give up my previous job because my working ours changed and by then I had 3 children. I want something with minimal commitment at least to start off with but I've got a feeling I'm going to struggle. Looking at local colleges, NHS, charities, local government that sort of thing. Fingers crossed something will come up.

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Happysummer2020 · 11/02/2020 20:52

Hate to suggest medication but have you ever tried beta blockers? Maybe chat to your doctor about options that would suit you?

Daphnesmate · 11/02/2020 21:13

Hi Happy. Yes, I might try beta blockers can't remember whether I have used them in the dim and distant past. Will chat to GP shortly.

The trouble is, I'm looking for a job with minimal commitment, probably in an office environment and these jobs aren't readily available. I will look over the forthcoming year. It is really difficult isn't it getting a work/life balance. Feeling disheartened about it all. There is the possibility of volunteer work - rewarding in one way I suppose but you can get to a point of feeling that hang on a minute, this could be a paid position.
I know people who do childminding/delivery work etc. I'm not saying these are easy options childminding is hard work but what I mean to say is that you aren't thrown into the path of other adults and I think that's what I need - to occupy my time a bit with a bit of adult company. I don't have to work for monetary reasons although this of course would be great and be a boost to my self esteem. Perhaps job share would be a good idea (2.5 days) but even these aren't probably easy to come by.

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