Has anyone ever got over their broodiness?

[Polly3006]

I have always had it in my head that I would have three children and I have in fact been blessed with 3DC, however DD1 was stillborn and even though she is still a huge part in our family and already having DS and having now had DD2 who is now 1, I still feel like I need to have another one. Unfortunately my DH doesn’t want anymore and I know he is right, financially and because of the stress of getting through another pregnancy. I work FT also and I always feel I am juggling a lot as is, I know my head is saying no and that is probably right but I my heart is tearing me apart desperately trying to find a way to make it happen. I suppose what I want to ask is has anyone experienced this yearning for another child and not followed through with it? Does the broodiness go away or will there be the regret I imagine I will be left with?

I'm so sorry to hear about your dd1.

I was the same as you as in I had 2 and wanted another. Dh didn't and eventually I accepted he was right. I did feel happy with my lot and began to make plans for the future as a 4.

DH changed his mind once dc2 started school though and brought up the possibility of ttc dc3. By then, I had so convinced myself I'd all the pitfalls I was then reticent, but on the the one occasion we both were broody dc3 was conceived 😂

I'm now struggling to move on from the idea that there will be no dc4 as dh is absokitely adament this time and we are older and much poorer. Knowing that I came to terms with my lot before is helping me to know I will be able to move on again this time.

I've realised I may be one of those people who would always like another and never feel done.

Sorry about your dd OP.

I have for now. I always thought I would have 3 aswell. I have 2 boys 5 years apart, youngest is 6. Last year I went through a stage where I just couldn't get it out my head. I was desperate. Space wise we couldn't do it (well we could, but I wouldn't want to) no chance of moving. Financially we would probably be fine, but do and I are both self employed so no guarantee of steady earnings, especially in my line of work.
I am over it for now. I cried a few times, which I know sounds a bit pathetic. DP said he would go with whatever I decided, but it's just too complicated. I am still sad about my decision, but it's the most sendible thing.

I would say I came to terms with it. I negotiated hard for my 4th but agreed I would not be asking for a 5th.

I was still broody but when youngest was just 5 I had to have a gynae op and be sterilised. I was sobbing so much in pre-op the consultant didn't want to operate my head knew it was the "right" decision but heart and hormones very much didn't feel "done"

It just took time tbh.

I think I would be the same, KindKylie. I always imagined having a few children, so not sure I would be satisfied at 3.

So sorry for your DD1 💐 I had a late miscarriage in between my DS'S. After DS2 I felt so broody wanted another to the point of madness. My DH said it doesn't matter how many babies we have it won't be the baby we lost. It's was tough decision but now I know a third pregnancy would have broke us and am happy with my two good luck OP.