My mum just called me a silly girl

[JillyBlooper]

I'm 42 FFS. She's getting nastier and more negative the older she gets

Sorry OP, she doesn't sound like a healthy person to have around. Maybe time to distance yourself a bit for your own sake?

I mean, there's worse things to be called.

Well yes there is but in the context it was used it was demeaning and very hurtful. She's very spiteful and yes I do try to distance myself for these reasons.

Have you tried winding her up for entertainment purposes? E.g., at the end of a diatribe remark that you can see right up her nose. Or perhaps when she belittles you, simply say "no, you're wrong" or "yeah, whatever".

"oh do fuck off mother dear. I am a grown woman"

But you never gave a context.

Not even a slight one.

My mother constantly called me "Dippy Dolly fucking Daydream" when I was depressed and suicidal growing up.

My mother calls me that and I am 45. But I would imagine there is a context here that makes it offensive? I get on well with my mother so it just makes me laugh.

My mum does this, usually in the midst of an argument where she has nothing else to say. I dont argue with her anymore, or expect anything emotion wise from her. It's sad it has to be this way, but I dont expect anything from her and it makes me happier. I just grey rock my mum now. I learnt the hard way, I couldnt change her as much as I wanted to, but I could change how I reacted to her. Done wonders for my mental health

It really entirely depends on the context. My mum quite rightly called me a silly girl once (aged 40 plus) for getting too pissed on a night out with the girls and losing my purse.

What had you done?

Disgrace has the right idea. Some slight off-topic remark to take the wind out of her sails, and move on.

Were you being silly?

It depends on the back story and context.
If your mum was and still is a dick then it is a demeaning,patronising view. Ofc that's to be expected from someone like her.

If you had a good healthy relationship when growing up and things are changing now, then either there might be something going on with her as she gets older or you just took an off hand comment the wrong way.

I wish my mum was still here to call me a silly girl.

How did that come about?

mmmm... DD once complained to teacher (yr2?) that I called her silly.

Context please?