Feeling low with toddler

[NeverGotMyPuppy]

I'm very early stages pregnant and have a virus so I'm not feeling clever anyway. I just feel knackered. DS is a happy soul but god it's such hard work. He hates having his nappy changed but is still pooing often 4 times a day. I cant seem to give him a meal without it requiring a full change of clothes and military style clean up afterwards. He doesnt like being put in and out of places or outfits so it's always a bit of a battle, tho he is fine once we are done.

I just feel exhausted and I dont know how I will cope with 2. It doesnt help that DH is away this week and our childminder cant help this week as she is on holiday. Our friends have offered to have dS which is great but they want us to stay with them.(i understand why, it saves them the early morning commute).it just means on top of everything I need to pack everything we need for 3 days.

My heart sinks when I look in the.mirror, my hair is an absolute state and I look a wreck.

I'm aware this is all low level. I just needed to vent really.

No one?

Everything seems harder when you’re ill or pregnant and you have both! I really sympathise. He seems to poo a lot, have you had him checked for allergies? Also could you use one of those t shirt like bibs so that most of him is covered so no change after food?

To be honest if you’re feeling poorly I think it’s worth the effort of packing if you get a bit more rest for 3 days

I feel your pain. Currently 23 weeks pregnant and have a 2.5 year old and I work full time. I am exhausted and finding wrangling a toddler sometimes very difficult indeed. I cherish the good moments and try to be the best mum I can but I am finding it hard at times. Apparently having a newborn with a toddler is easier than being pregnant with a toddler.
Deep breaths, don't worry, it won't be forever.

Thanks both

No I havent had his checked for anything, poo seems normal just... so bloody frequent. I didn't think I'd feel pregnant so ealry, cant remember doing so with number 1!

Make sure he avoids dairy until he is better that will make his tummy worse too. Have a shower, hair wash ect when he is asleep and that will make you feel a little better. X

He doesnt have an upset tummy, he has always been like this!

I’m currently 37 weeks and my early pregnancy with a toddler DD was really hard. I focused on surviving each day which often meant too much TV for DD but by 16 weeks I was feeling better and regained the boundaries a bit more and it’s not done her any harm. My advice would be focus on each day and before you know it time will have flown.

Thank you, I've felt a bit panicked today that it's only going to get worse but that is encouraging! Congratulations

Also as someone else said there was a thread a while back where people said newborn and toddler is easier than pregnancy with a toddler which I found quite reassuring!