How do you live with an unhappy person?

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My husband has been in a depression since December
He's not a bad or unkind man
He's a good dad and he works hard. He goes through the motions, does his fair share
But I'm lonely, he barely speaks
I wonder what mood he's going to be in when I see him after work.
He's sullen and unmotivated

I love him so very much and I know the reasons he's in this state and he will likely come out the other side eventually
But I'm struggling.

Anyone?

I left my ex girlfriend because of this. It went deeper than depression.

I stood by her until it was clear it would never change and I became depressed too.

I think you need to clearly set time in the week that is “you” time, seeing friends, exercising, Hobbies, shopping etc and not feel guilty

If you can keep yourself in good shape you will be better support for your dh.

Has he been to see his GP? Living with someone who's miserable can destroy your relationship and your life, however obviously it's probably not as though he's doing it on purpose.

I will absolutely stand by an unhappy partner, but I won't stand by an unhappy partner who refuses to use the help that's available.

Is there any reason he's down? Money worries? Problems at work? Trouble conceiving? Lack of free time?

Do you get the chance to spend some time together each week, out of the house, and away from any stresses?

It is very easy to get stuck in a rut, but I believe that if you truly love someone, you have to give them a fair chance to get better, while at the same time respecting yourself enough to walk away when it becomes clear they won't.

There are reasons. It's too many any varied to go into here, but he has a health issue which is potentially scary even though it's perfectly ok at the moment. Were not rich or poor. We can't afford holidays abroad or work on our house, but we pay our bills and have a holiday camping once a year. Were about to become parents of teenagers so well past TTC. They are at secondary school..work.is shite but I asked him the other day if he wanted to change jobs

u keep going with your own life, stay busy, dont just sit and listen for hours to them being down - move your self away from them if they start.
make plans and he either comes with you or you go alone -just power through.
if hes depressed presumably he is getting help in some way to get past it with pills/therepy and looking after himself going to the gym etc?