Work or not work, full time or part time???

[Lunalilo]

So my little man is 7 months old I'm having pressure from my work about going back in march my previous position was full time but they want me to do part time.
My partner is agency working at the moment which is very unreliable I cant deal with the stress.
I dont know what to do for the best whether to get a full time night job or to bot go back to work at all until little man starts pre school. I'm in a very hard position because the job I'm in I've worked to damn hard to get where I am today and my partner is no help? Really dont know what to do it's so difficult new we have a little man to think about. Any advice would be appreciated!

I have got a question though by the time I pay for childcare would it be worth me going to work?

Child care costs are also his responsibility. Not yours alone.

No he was in a well paid stable job and then suddenly made redundant my son wasnt planned but is loved beyond measure.

So you never discussed going back to work and how it would work between the two of you?

I wasn’t asking if your baby was planned!!

No he says he not bothered what I choose he says it's my choice which I know it is but I dont want to make the wrong one I dont want to miss out the big things in my sons life because I've been working the job I do is not a typical 9-5 job and is very physically and emotionally demanding

So do you actually want to go back to work?

I would go back to work full time when he’s 12 months. Do whatever it takes to keep your career intact.

Do you have any useful doting grand Parents around that could help out with child care a bit ?

Definitely don't give up work as you're unmarried. If you split up and you haven't got a job to go back to you'd be up shit creek.

I love my job and I worked so so hard to get where I am trying to break the barriers of sexism, but I love my son more and need to do the right thing which I'm so stressed as to what that is right now

Go back to work. It seems like the most responsible thing do given the situation as you have explained it with your partner being in unstable work and, like others have said, if things go tits up given how great your partner is coming off

So do the part time hours suit you?

Hes worries a lot lately... scary situation... trying to keep us fed

So how on earth do you think you not working will help this?

Your family needs money.

Full time.

They wouldn't be enough only 14 hours a week, it would be that or full time

So go back full time or put in a flexible working plan request in.

Have you looked into whether you are eligible for tax free childcare ? Its a govt scheme to help fund some childcare costs.