Have you ever had a “Wow! I want to/am going to marry this person” moment?

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Just as the title says really. I haven’t had one myself but interested in reading others.

I don't think I've ever thought "this is the one! I'm going to marry him!"

About anyone. Ever. And I'm happily married.

Yep, dh and I were engaged within a month. Been together 21 years now.

Interesting point RuffleCrow

Yes totally.
When I met DH I went straight to my best friend and told her I’d met the man I was going to marry. 17 lovely years and two kids later, it’s still good.

Yes. I had the full lightning bolts, eyes meeting across a crowded room scenario. It was amazing. Still together 15 years later

My DH had this moment, on the night we met we called his sister to tell her he had met the girl he was going to marry...thankfully he didn’t tell me that, his sister told me about 18 mths later and he confirmed.

After 3 weeks together I blurted out ‘I love you’. I remember feeling mortified as I didn’t know where it came from, I didn’t remember having a conscious thought about how I was feeling. I had also never told a boyfriend that I love them up to that point. To add to my mortification he replied with a big smile ‘do you now?’

Celebrating 30 years together this year. I love him.

Not as such, although when DH started talking about the possibility of us getting married, I definitely felt comfortable with the idea. Some people find it weird that we talked about it without either of us asking the other, but it was totally natural and straightforward.

Yes, when I forst spoke to him on the phone for 4 hours (we met online) I knew. Took us a while to get there but we've been married 4 years and have 2 kids. These days he's a bit more irritating than when we forst met but I still believe he is the one

Lots with my current DP. We’re not married but talk about it. My fave one was on an all inclusive holiday we’d looked forward to for ages. I got extreme gastroenteritis that resulted in being put on a drip in the hotel room. At one point I pooped myself through several layers of clothing. At this point in the relationship we hadn’t even farted in front of each other yet. He was an absolute gentlemen, looking after me and was so kind, even cleaned my poop pants 😂 and said he still fancied me loads. I remember lying almost unconscious on the bed in my own filth thinking ‘well now I’m going to have to marry this man’.

Yes, waiting on a bus at 14 saw him getting on another bus, and told my friend that was whom i would marry. Met at disco 4 years later, have been together ever since, over 40 years. Not all roses but we still enjoy being together. I guess we were lucky.

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I think this thread is going to turn up a mix of experiences op because those of us who had less than ideal upbringings will tend to have those 'wow' moments with unsuitable men (because that's what feels familiar and therefore 'safe') whereas those who had happy childhoods will get "that feeling" with someone compatible. Generally speaking.

I agree, generally speaking, but also don’t, in a way. Some people can, and have, been brought up in less than an ideal upbringing and having gone through less than idealistic relationship/s in the past, will be more firm and more questioning “wow” moments if they see a pattern forming. On the contrary, those raised in what comes across as idyllic could be seen as settling for less because they don’t know any better.

To those that felt it: did you somehow know deep inside or was it just a feeling like “I think that person who I’m looking at right now is very attractive”?

Well i remember the moment i knew i wanted to marry my now dh and it wasn't when i first saw him or anything! We were friends for about 6 or 7 years before we got together but after 7 months as a couple i knew i wanted to marry him. Id had so many shit boyfriends and he was so different - he always wanted to make me happy and clearly adored me, never messed me around and was clear and honest about how he felt. 18 years later and our relationship continues to get better. But it was certainly a slow burn for us and i think that is better.

Nope, it was a given. DH is fucking funny. That nailed it.

No.

I had 4 different marriage proposals before dh. Still not sure I made rhe right choice after 25 years. Guess I'm not the romantic type.

Some amazing stories on this thread, thanks. Gives me a little hope!

Yes. Looked at him and knew he was my husband. I couldn't have described even what he looked like. Wasn't a feeling of overwhelming love or lust at first sight, just, here's my husband... 20 years married this year.

Yes, I walked into my first job, and he was there. Eyes locked and I felt like I'd met my future husband . Unfortunately he was married.

Twenty years later, he contacted me on a friends reunited site . Suffice it to say that neither of us was married , we talked for a year and then got together. Married for 15 years now.

Yes, about three days after meeting them. Proposed after a month. Together 23 years now, two kids

I used to sit behind him in lectures and stare at his neck and shoulders. But he had a bad reputation so I avoided actually meeting him. At graduation he came over and asked why we'd never met and that was that. Smitten. We went home together that night. We got married stupidly young and made each other very miserable for about a decade.

I had that moment, very very clearly. DH was a one night stand at a wedding that i couldn't get out of my head, and we ended up in a relationship kinda by accident. We were very young, and living together, and we hadn't talked about "forever" really yet, but i had a lightning bolt moment about a year in...

We were at dinner with my family, and my granny had made salmon. My little sister (grown up little sister) has this thing about fish, deep down in her wonderful sensitive little heart, it really hurts her to eat it if it looks 'like a mermaid' ie has the skin on still. My DH carried her plate into the dining room, saw the look on her face when she saw it, took it straight back into the kitchen and removed the skin from her piece of salmon and gave it back to her. Everyone laughed and teased her for being silly and i sat there and thought "i am going to marry that man and love him forever" and so far so good.

I know the exact moment I knew I loved and wanted to marry/spend the rest of my life with my now DH.
We were at the beach and by the taps where you rinse sand off your feet - a little girl was struggling to turn the tap on and DH very sweetly helped her do it. Was such a simple little thing, anyone would have probably done the same, and I can’t explain why it was that moment but I distinctly remember thinking “yes, I want to spend my life with you”.

To those that felt it: did you somehow know deep inside or was it just a feeling like “I think that person who I’m looking at right now is very attractive”?

I knew. It was like coming home, my brain just went "oh, it's YOU, here you are" and I knew that I would fall in love with him (and also that he would feel the same, which was weirder as I had extremely low self esteem and had never assumed that anyone even fancied me before, let alone would fall in love with me). Physical attraction actually wasn't really a factor - I thought (and still think) he was very handsome but it was kind of an irrelevance if that makes sense? It was secondary to the feeling of rightness. It certainly wasn't the same as lust which I had experienced in the past. It was something deeper and totally unique.

I knew. It was like coming home, my brain just went "oh, it's YOU, here you are" and I knew that I would fall in love with him

I felt exactly the same although he didn't,he said he thought I was pretty but a bit dippy