I am a single mum of twins aged 11. I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now. He has met my children a few time but we wanted to take things slow as he's my first partner since my divorce so it's the only partner my children have met.
My boyfriend is amazing and I love him lots and he's very kind with his head screwed on, he has his own house (I rent). He has been hurt by previous woman who have taken advantage of him with money, he has a good job and earns a good wage. He's made it clear from the beginning that he is scared of us living together (as in me moving in with him) as he doesn't want history to repeat itself. In a nutshell he's scared I'll move in get married etc and then I'll take him for half of what he haves so he doesn't have anything to pass on to his children (they are in their late teens)
When I left my ex husband I left with only my children and even through the divorce I never asked for any money or settlement so my boyfriend knows I'm not interested in his money but I think he's still wary.
I can understand where he is coming from because if it was the other way round I would be on my guard too as he's worked hard for his home.
I also talked at the get go that I would wait until my children were ready to leave home that I would consider living together, as I believe this can sometimes cause stress on all involved.
should I be worried that he's not ever going to want to commit in the future or shall I just let time do it's thing and hopefully he will see over time that I won't be interested in his money but just him!????
Any advise wod be much appreciated. Thank you