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Today 14:07Eowyn2010
Hi guys, just after some advice from those who have been through similar. I have been separated from my husband of 10 years for a few months now, due to his affair.
We have 2 kids aged 4 and 18 months. Eldest has cerebral palsy and is fully dependant, requiring full time 121 care. When he was two, I quit my salaried job to be his carer full time. So aside from a bit of self employed income, I am financially dependent on my ex.
We have a small mortgage left on our home, with a fair amount of equity. I need to move somewhere I can adapt for my eldest. Ex is currently blocking any sale.
There is a history of abusive behaviour in our marriage, mostly emotional, on occasion physical. I have given up all hope of us sorting everything out amicably and am looking for a solicitor.
Where do I start? How do I know who is any good? What could I be eligible for in terms of share of our assets, ongoing maintenance etc?
Do I have any grounds to limit his access to the kids? I feel like I am the one who can provide them with the most stability. I also find it very emotionally draining to see him, so the less often the better.
Little bit overwhelmed by how much there is to get sorted. Any advice would be gratefully received x
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Divorce advice please
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Hi guys, just after some advice from those who have been through similar. I have been separated from my husband of 10 years for a few months now, due to his affair.
We have 2 kids aged 4 and 18 months. Eldest has cerebral palsy and is fully dependant, requiring full time 121 care. When he was two, I quit my salaried job to be his carer full time. So aside from a bit of self employed income, I am financially dependent on my ex.
We have a small mortgage left on our home, with a fair amount of equity. I need to move somewhere I can adapt for my eldest. Ex is currently blocking any sale.
There is a history of abusive behaviour in our marriage, mostly emotional, on occasion physical. I have given up all hope of us sorting everything out amicably and am looking for a solicitor.
Where do I start? How do I know who is any good? What could I be eligible for in terms of share of our assets, ongoing maintenance etc?
Do I have any grounds to limit his access to the kids? I feel like I am the one who can provide them with the most stability. I also find it very emotionally draining to see him, so the less often the better.
Little bit overwhelmed by how much there is to get sorted. Any advice would be gratefully received x