Perimenopause

[Borkins]

I'm 41 and generally very fit and healthy but lately I have a whole host of odd changes.

• I sometimes can't stand my DH and I wonder if we are incompatible. I've doted on him and loved him deeply for many years and I certainly have no intention of looking elsewhere. I just don't understand this sudden irritation with him!
• Sore spots on my chest and neck
• feeling like I'm coming down with a virus one minute e.g hot, very tired etc then being able to do my usual high intensity exercise the next minute!
• Not being able to handle wine. It's always been my weakness but I find recently I get memory loss when I drink wine even if I've not had that much.
• Waking up in the night and despite not thinking or being anxious, just lying awake!
• Generally getting annoyed with people's bullshit. In some ways I'm much more tolerant and empathetic but I also find myself speaking my mind more. I feel like a grumpy old lady!

Is this the start of change or is it in my head?!

Welcome to the club. You might also get night sweats to go with the insomnia and hot flushes. It's joyous (not).

I dunno, I'm with you. But get annoyed when it gets put down to hormones 😆. Are we just wiser to peoples bullshit. I just can't tolerate it anymore !!!

Sounds like it to me. Mood swings, alcohol intolerance, mystery aches and pains, sweats.

Yep. It's shit.
The worst for me is the PMT now. It's not just feeling a bit low or teary anymore, it's like sinking into a giant pit of despair for a week. And the tiredness is off the scale.

I have a mirena coil so no periods therefore impossible to tell where my cycle is at

I was on the mini pill, didn’t bleed at all for three years then just had the odd one so couldn’t tell where I was either. Stopped the pill and nothing happened, left it four months then started hrt. Tried three different types over 18 months but didn’t like the side effects so stopped a year ago this month, not had a bleed since I gave up on the hrt so I don’t actually know when my periods would have ceased. Still have some night sweats but the mood swings have improved, still have some down days but had a rough few months, lost my dad and some other issues so it’s not surprising. I’m hoping I’m through the worst part of the menopause now.