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I've got a question about nurses..

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Luckystar777 · 05/02/2020 02:53

I feel stupid even to be asking this but here goes.

So someone I know is dating someone who claims to be a nurse. But the thing is, this nurse gets an awful lot of time off - like she gets let out early if she ''can't focus'' and gets away with taking extended lunch breaks and things like skiving off work for an hour to see her partner. Is that even allowed if you're an NHS nurse? 'Cause I'm thinking no.. but I don't know any nurses so wanted to ask people who do know/are nurses.

Fwiw, this person does also sound kind of abusive and has been known to lie about other things in the past (including telling her partner she was working one night but wasn't and was actually at home) so this has just got me wondering.

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x2boys · 05/02/2020 20:18

Unless she's an agency or Bank Nurse she would still be working on a particular ward or unit ,it's not really easy to skive off or take extended lunch breaks especially if she works in inpatient care ,it's hard enough IME to take your designated break !

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Luckystar777 · 05/02/2020 21:09

I've no idea what agency or bank nurses are.. would they give training to other staff?

I was thinking that because I watch 24 hours in A&E and things like that and I'm sure on one of those they said they hadn't eaten or even been able to go to the loo for about 10 hours? So for some supposed manager 'thingy' nurse to be swanning off for extended lunches and going home when she feels like ti sounds really off.

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titchy · 05/02/2020 21:16

Just look her up:

https://www.nmc.org.uk/registration/search-the-register/

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73Sunglasslover · 05/02/2020 21:26

Everything you mention in your long list posted at 05:52 happens in my work place except prisoners chained to the bed but I don't work in the kind of unit where that would happen.

Nurses could, very occasionally, have longer lunch breaks and slope off early as they can't focus but only when doing more management jobs which they can make the time up for in the evening (for example).

Willow2017 · 05/02/2020 21:41

Sometimes she's had to stay on longer if a colleague phones in sick but at very short notice - like a few hours notice, while she is already on her shift?

She supposedly works part-time but this includes 35/40 hours?

She often swaps shift with people at short notice too?

They change her hours for her at short notice?

Her shifts seem to change every week.

Also claims to do things like having taken 4 hours annual leave - is that even possible?

She also gets 'split shifts' ?

All of that is entirely normal. Some of the other stuff is rubbish though.
She may have nursed at some point and is pretending she still does?

PlomBear · 05/02/2020 21:44

Does she work at Holby City Hospital?

isadoradancing123 · 05/02/2020 21:57

If she is in management then who knows, no one ever seems to know what n h s managers do apart from walking about with clipboards allegedly going to meetings

Tatty101 · 05/02/2020 22:02

Why do you care so much? You're spending a lot of energy thinking about this by the sounds of your messages ....

SparklingXmas · 05/02/2020 22:06

Ah but if she works somewhere like commissioning etc so non pt facing then yes it’s believable - it’s called flexi working, you make the time up, lots of people use this to get to school plays/assemblies etc a lot of nurses working in this field work from home so manage their time accordingly. Like others that work for these organisations

MotherPupper · 05/02/2020 22:27

OP, it sounds like she might be an RMN and does 'specialing' on a ward. I'd this is the case, then she could be as flexible as you've said in your OP.

Why does it matter?

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Luckystar777 · 06/02/2020 02:04

Ah so it could be true then. I don't know her full name, only her first one and the city.

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Luckystar777 · 06/02/2020 02:11

I guess I just found it odd but I see now it's maybe not that odd? Other things she had said/done had stood out too as what some would call 'red flags'. I think I'd be better dropping it as maybe I was wrong.

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giggly · 06/02/2020 02:36

I’m a nurse and work with a nurse who constantly tells whoopers of lies. Band 5 qualified 3 years I overheard her telling a relative that she had 3 degrees Hmm
She definitely does not have 3 degrees. I started humming some MotownGrin

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Luckystar777 · 06/02/2020 03:03

Maybe it's the same woman, lol @giggly

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Shev1996 · 06/02/2020 04:15

Op you do sound a bit obsessed, a few questions is perhaps ok for ‘someone you know’. However you are now going into weirdly obsessed territory. Why does it matter so much to you?

caulkheaded · 06/02/2020 05:24

My housemate is a nurse with a medical condition (she faints when stressed/tired). She works in medical day care so has regular shifts 4 days per week but can get our early if they’ve gone through all their patients or if she isn’t well. (Couldn’t work in a more high pressured wars though).
She sometimes picks up bank shifts as an hca on one of the day offs so could this woman work two different jobs?

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Luckystar777 · 06/02/2020 07:08

you're right @Shev1996 I'm not going to bother anymore with it, it's a waste of time.

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CalleighDoodle · 06/02/2020 07:51

What are low pressure wars? Grin

x2boys · 06/02/2020 08:09

RMN,s don't get to slope off for long lunch breaks of because they can't focus @MotherPupper!Well not inpatient RMN,when I was an RMN I rarely got time for any break let alone extended ones ,if she says she's a staff Nurse than she's not a manager ,she's a bog standard. Nurse who might be in charge of a shift but definitely not management ,I was a staff Nurse for many years

x2boys · 06/02/2020 08:12

@Isadoradancing123 so trueGrin

peridito · 06/02/2020 08:25

@Luckystar777 you don't sound obsessed to me , you wondered and posted on MN re working as a nurse .A lot of people replied ,not because you were obsessed but because they wanted to reply .

Your query and concern sound entirely normal to me .

saraclara · 06/02/2020 08:33

Those answer to almost all of those questions is 'normal'. My daughter works three long days of 12.5 hours and one short shift of 4-5 hours a week. And yes, swaps shifts, gets shifts changed, those working days are different every week... all the things that you seem to find weird are normal. And really annoying as it's hard to plan stuff far in advance.

ItStartedWithAKiss241 · 06/02/2020 08:40

At the hospital I work at I know one of the wards has unofficial extended lunch breaks, ability to sneak off and call if convenient, obviously not in the middle of a drug round etc. Another one we often leave at 7.30 instead of 9pm....
I don’t find it unbelievable.
Could she be a bank nurse/healthcare assistant/agency? X

peridito · 06/02/2020 08:43

I am finding this a very interesting insight into some areas of working in the NHS .

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Luckystar777 · 06/02/2020 09:12

Thank you @peridito I do agree that while I may have been wrong about the person being a liar that it has still turned out interesting to read about nurses generally.

@ItStartedWithAKiss241 I still don't know what a bank nurse is? I googled but some weird answers came up Confused

@PlomBear lol, could be Holby, you never know, lol Grin :)

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