20 month old no interaction or communication with other kids or adults!!!

[cdaly86]

Hey!!

Just wanted to see if I'm the only mother in the world with a child like this 😂

so my son is just gone 20 months. ..

Hes non verbal at the moment so frustration is the number 1 problem at the minute.

When hes home with myself and partner hes fine has his odd tantrum when doesnt get his own way like normal child but when we leave the house it's a whole other story

He hides his face n winges if anyone tries to talk to him kids and adults.. if we bring him anywhere he keeps winging to a point we have to leave..

I have brought this up up with the health nurse and he is down for speech therapy but waiting list is 10 months but I'm more worried about his interacrion/communication with others he has no interest in my nieces or nephews and just wants us all the time it's a nightmare when some1 wants to visit us he just winges all the time .

He is being assessed at the minute and we back in 4 weeks for another app but just dont know if I'm thinkin to far ahead with him havin autism or is he just being a normal lazy boy..

No you aren't thinking too far ahead because the process is quite slow. My son is now 3 years and 3 months and his speech therapy only started 3 months a go (10 month wait also) and the assessment process is very slow, over a year and not much has happened. If you can, try and push to get on the more than words course. It's great and has helped us a lot. There's still no words really with my DS but his understanding and communication and social skills have come on massive leaps with this course.

I would also advice a playgroup when he is 2 if you can, that also really helps

Ye we have tried bringing him to play groups but he just cries so we do have to leave with him so I'm going to wait as u said were gonna wait till hes just over 2 n then we'll try again... my health nurse said he might not need speech therapy because hes still only young but hes on the list anyways so when it comes to it when hes on top of the list if he still needs he can get the help then he still not walkin 100% (I was a Slow walker 2 ) so I dnt know what it's more frustration with him than anything else...

My DS was similar but at nearly 2.5 now it's like he's a different child! Literally overnight he went from saying the odd word here and there to having a full blown conversation with us. We did do an early talk course with our local family centre which also helped - we got referred to it at his 2 year check because we were quite worried about him but it seems he just didn't want to talk then.

Aww that's great....yes were waiting on an app with the speech therapist to give us some exercises to do with him at home and they will try help with his interaction aswell ... hes quite happy just pottering around on his own n doing his own thing that's obviously his personality but he needs to be able to communicate also with us so we know what he wants as he cant speak yet he can say mama baba meow and loves going around saying ooohhhhh thata about it..

Can you try baby signing? So he can ask for some things

He wont point at anything he just put his hands up to us and winges that's his way of telling us he wants something he is a bit behind on his development we do know that already it feel luke I'm gettin nowhere and only so much winging u can Take when its 24/7 🙈🙈🙈

Yeah once he is 2, the playgroup will let you leave him there. There will be a settling in period of course where you've to hang around just incase he gets too upset but after a week of that with my DS, he sailed in every day with no issues. They are really good with him and he still attends that playgroup as well as going to school nursery.

You can call up the local playgroups and ask some questions, that's what I did to find the most suitable one. They encourage the child to be independent from the parent and to play with the other kids. Like I said, the first week was hard as he cried a lot and wanted to leave but after that it was great, I just dropped him off, gave a cuddle and said bye and came back after the session finished

I strongly recommend toddler groups, not so much for him but so you can see that at that age there's a wide variety of levels of interaction. My dd1 didn't talk at all, she is autistic (but learned to talk by 4), dd2 went down the same development path so we were thinking "oh no" but by 3 she was fully verbal, outgoing and no signs of any delay's though did end up being dyslexic (both now adults). Getting onto the wait list is a good thing but don't worry too much, there's a high probability of there being nothing wrong

My DC1 didn’t start speaking until they were over 3 years old and DC3 around 2.5years. They both chat fine now (in fact I wish they’d be quiet sometimes now!!) So I’m normally of the opinion that there is no point worrying about “late” speakers and it’ll come in time and children do things at their own pace blah blah blah. My big BUT to that is that you should totally trust your instincts. I didn’t have any concerns with their development. They could communicate fine with me (DC1 more than DC2 who actually spoke earlier which could be linked to me not understanding them as well), pointed or got their needs across okay even if it was in a negative way (crying etc). It worked for them. They were also keen to interact with others especially at that age. I’d say my DC1 into started to get slightly frustrates as they nearer 3.5 yr and was in nursery but his speech came on lots around then too.

I’d push for SALT help given it seems to be impacting your child socially ie they aren’t keen to interact. And as PP said it’s never too early to start raising concerns and getting on waiting lists even if you end up not needing the help.

I do sympathise with the winging. My DC3 was pretty bad as I said I couldn’t quite make out their needs as well whereas I was pretty tuned in with DC1. I felt myself getting more frustrated with them (didn’t show outwardly to them!) and feeling like I just didn’t know what they wanted when the winged and clearly trying to communicate something but I had no idea what!! Very frustrating especially looking around seeing tiny toddlers using their words etc it is hard to manage. Now I’m out the other side of those years I always get a little surprises when I hear a 2/3 year old speaking away and wonder how a tiny human can speak. I have in my head that they wouldn’t be able to.

Good luck. Hope get some help

@2early2day ye we are just waiting on an app from SALT so hopefully bot much longer and were also waiting on a hearing test to rule out his hearing cause that can cause major delay if theres problems with his hearing... I no the winging is so frustrating I do just have to leave the room sometimes I get myself so upset over it just sitting there looking at him when I dont think he even knows what he wants 😂😂 but hopefully we get the help we need n I have him on 5 waiting list for creches aswell to try get him to interact but dont think I'm gonna get anywhere till sept and then hopefully when he goes in there he will come a lot more.. thank you 😁

Yappity, might be useful to clarify what you mean by ‘playgroup’ or at least where you are. Around here it would mean a baby/toddler/preschooler group and none of them operate in loco parentis. The only settings I’ve ever come across where you can leave a child of that age are nurseries and preschools, both whether school or private and all paid apart from funded hours.

The fact you've name changed is confusing - as it means your posts aren't highlighted.....

How does he communicate with you ?
You say he doesn't speak, but will he make animal noises with you when reading a book ? Or dinoasaur 'roars' when playing, or vehicle noises "vroom" or "nee naw nee naw" etc?
Does he respond to your questions........ "Where's the sheep?"........ or requests...."Pass me the red car" etc ?
Can he make choices ...... "Milk or water" ....... "banana or apple" ?
What is his understanding like....... if you are going out, does he 'get' that, and perhaps look for his coat or his shoes ?

@BackforGood I changed it as I made a mistake!!!

No hes not doing any of that!! He does know If something is broke he bring sit straight over to us to fix it he was few weeks early aswell he has been behind on all this milestones..

I'm in Scotland and we call them playgroups. The child is left with playworkers and they can attend from 2-4 years old. We tend to call settings where parents stay, stay and play or toddler and baby groups. Hope this clears things up

OP, What is your little ones understanding like? For example, if you ask him to get his shoes, would be abr able to do it?

Yappity Crikey. W Midlands here. They must be a blessing!

No he wouldn't understand things like that he obviously cant talk yet so if he wants something example he knows he has food in his bag he goes n gets his bag n try get the food out or gives it to us get it for him if the tele or his tablet knocks of ( o do have little baby bum on for him) he comes straight over to us for us to fix it and turn it back on .