What next big step can you take to get that bit closer to the life you want?

[Queenparsnip]

Feeling thoroughly fed up and unsettled this weekend. Just a general sense of dissatisfaction. Need to bite the bullet and do some stuff to make me happy instead of procrastinating and then feeling pissed off that I'm not getting anywhere. Am I making any sense here?

My list...

1. Get a cleaner (I can afford it and I'm so sick of always having housework hanging over my head and feeling guilty for relaxing. Really not sure what is stopping me. Has anyone ever regretted getting a cleaner??)

1. Having a bash at creative writing. I've a million ideas but instead of actually getting them down I just watch telly every evening and think one day I'll write but it never happens.

1. A really good exercise regime including pilates. I always find an excuse but I've had enough of feeling so demotivated. Pilates is the only thing that's really impacted my shape.

Does anyone else just got angry with their life and it's spurred them to make a change for the better. Big or small?

Have a second baby DP has agreed in theory but we’ve yet to have sex...

That's exciting, Alohamolly Enjoy it
I think because I'm done having DC and no big changes on the horizon like moving house or new job I'm a bit restless and wondering what's next...

I've wanted to retrain so that I can quit my job, move to a nicer part of the country and give my DD a better life. A massive overhaul of our workplace started whilst I was on maternity leave. This gave me the push I needed to start my retraining. I've just gone part time so I can test the waters with my new career path before my next big step of quitting my job for good. I've got another 2 years before DD starts school and would love for us to have moved by then. Big changes for us soon hopefully!

I've been quite miserable in my career for quite a while (well, ever since I graduated really) and want to move into something TOTALLY different that is currently my hobby. I've spent a lot of time moping and despairing about how I'll never get into it without doing a degree, which is unaffordable as I already have a degree. You don't actually need a degree to do it at all, I just have an inferiority complex about being unqualified. I've been doing evening classes for a year but not really knowing how to cross the line into doing it as a job. A few weeks ago I asked around for work experience and now have a Saturday job doing the hobby!

However this means I work 6 days a week and it's pretty exhausting. I'm quite proud of myself for getting the Saturday job but don't want to have a breakdown just after I've started, so the next step will be to brave it and ask for 4 days a week at my day job.

I've only been there a few months though and have no idea how to broach it, as I've only know people to work PT because of kids, not because of other things. I guess if you never ask then you never know!

I'm also going to some open days for some college courses next month, and looking to buy a flat which means I can then go self-employed with the hobby in the future.

Oh and after spending an entire Wednesday crying and ringing up counselling services, I decided to take up jogging with the husband. It's been a pretty positive change so far

I recommend you read ‘How to Do everything and be happy’ by Peter Jones. I was feeling a bit like you and now feel Mx much more motivated. I haven’t done everything he suggests yet but I have:

• Started a list of things I want to do eg restaurants I’d like to try, places I’d like to visit
• started thinking about some goals for the year
• booked some time off work for just me (and planned out the rest of my annual leave to ensure there’s some family time, couple time and me time spread throughout the year)
• taken up some opportunities at work that I might not have considered a few months ago.