Is anyone elses DP a miserable sod / boring ?!

[rockeryy]

Dp is really moody - is hardly smily and laughing / chatting etc . If I ask him a question I'll get a response and that's it. So many times I may even just get ignored. He'll sigh before answering and I just honestly don't know what to do.

He has always been a quiet type which is fine. But I don't know I think over the years I'm beginning to not like the way things are. Ive recently returned to work after being a sahm for a long time and I really enjoy chatting with my colleagues. It just highlights how little we talk at home.

I don't know if I'm being to sensitive about it all. I recently been for therapy sessions for my very low self esteem since childhood and I don't know if this has anything to do with the way I feel.

Sounds like he’s not interested in talking to you. Is that the kind of relationship you want?

Has he always been like this? What's he like with his friends/family? Is it just you he doesn't speak to or is it everyone? Does he have any passions or interests?

He's not very social at all. He'll meet up for a drink with his friends every now and again. I think I've put it down to him just being quite quiet. At the beginning of the relationship we used to talk alot. Then the kids came along and I guess life just got busy and before you know it I realised that we hardly talk.

Right now we're in the car and I've just brought up the conversation of the coranavirus in York. A colleague lives there.

I got nothing. Not one word.

Does he work?
Does he have any interests at all like sports?

Do you want your kids growing up thinking this is normal? Treating you like this? Treating other people like this?

Because there's being quiet or reserved and there's being unpleasant and an arsehole.

Ignoring someone and huffing before you respond is nasty.

Have you talked to him about it? Could he be depressed?

I have spoken to him about it and he says it isn't coming from a horrible place. He isn't doing it because he is annoyed / whatever with me. It's just the way he is. I do believe him. I think he doesn't see anything wrong in what he's doing. Sometimes he says he's tired so not in the mood for talking which I understand but he's obviously not tired most of the time. I don't think I've really questioned it and just sort of accepted it all this time as I have a pretty messed up track record in bad partners and as stupid as it sounds I don't see when I'm being treated badly as it's my normal ( hence the therapy!).

As for hobbies, he doesn't really have time I guess but he likes cycling and playing the off football match with a group who meet weekly.