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Would you find this suspicious?

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Florencenotflo · 02/02/2020 11:08

Posting for a friend who was round last night. Without much context or backstory would you find the following suspicious:

Whatsapp on your husbands phone, 3 archived chats, all female 'friends', all chats are cleared but show that the last activity ranges between 7 days ago and yesterday.

One of these 'friends' she found texts between them about 2 years ago, very over friendly, lots of I miss you, I wish we were together etc but nothing sexual.

I'll show her the responses, but I gave her advice 2 years ago and said it wouldn't be a one off. She thinks I'm being too harsh by saying she needs to seriously think about continuing the relationship, this would be a deal breaker to me. Although there is no chat visible, the fact he has gone to such lengths to hide it speaks louder to me.

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DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 02/02/2020 11:11

He thinks he's being clever, but he's actually quite dim. Who wants to be with someone who thinks you're thicker than you are?

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yogo · 02/02/2020 11:13

He's clearly being a prick. Dump him

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KennyRogersWasNotInStarWars · 02/02/2020 11:16

‘Wish we were together’ would hurt me more than something sexual to be honest. Both would have me ending the relationship but sexual messages I could brush off as ‘moment of madness’ or getting caught up in something. My husband wishing they were with someone else in a complete relationship would hurt me more than that.

And you’re right that the fact he’s deleted it speaks volumes, my husband has messages on his phone from female friends/colleagues and it doesn’t bother me at all - because they’re on his phone! If I knew all his messages with ‘Jane’ were deleted I’d then be suspicious of his so called friendship with her!

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DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 02/02/2020 11:22

Than they are

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Florencenotflo · 02/02/2020 11:33

My exact words @KennyRogersWasNotInStarWars I think the gist of the convo last time was we should have been together but the timing wasn't right, they'd lost touch or something and by the time they got back in touch she was with someone and had just had a baby, he'd just met my friend. I would find that more hurtful.

Another good point @DisgraceToTheYChromosome

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pooopypants · 02/02/2020 11:54

What caused your friend to look in the first place?

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FuzzyAtmosphere · 02/02/2020 11:57

What caused your friend to look in the first place?

I think that often this is the most important thing because it generally means there isn’t trust in a relationship (by the sounds of things, rightly so based on two years ago). Once you reach the stage of checking if someone is cheating, I don’t think relationships are usually happy or sustainable.

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Florencenotflo · 02/02/2020 12:27

Phone issues apparently. Husband has a new phone, needed help transferring everything. Friend took it somewhere to get it sorted, they asked her if she wanted WhatsApp chats backing up including the archived ones and showed her the screen.

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