My mother in-law is generous. She got me a car when mine got broken into when I was 9 months pregnant. I like her but lately I feel like I should reduce how much I see her. My Daughter is 6 months since her first week we have been going to her house twice a week on my partner's day of work and again at the weekend.
She has a 17 year old dog that she never wash like ever and sheds hair like crazy, there's dog hairs all over the house the carpet etc dog jump on sofa so there's hair there and dog is allowed in every room as she says it's the dog's house. Every time my daughter's pacifier falls it catches the dog hair and she put it back in her mouth which drives me crazy I have to carry daughter every time am there she asks me to put daughter down for her to roll on floor and I get my partner to say no because of dog hairs.
I spoke to my partner about cutting my visits to once a every fortnight, she complained to her son she won't get to see daughter enough, I don't speak to my own mother and bonded with in-laws during pregnancy I do however go to my mothers to see my siblings sent inlaw a picture of my brother and daughter and she responded with I can see you're spending more time there no pet hairs, mind you I was at her house 6 days earlier. My partner agrees I can cut back but I know she is going to be a problem I tried inviting her over for a few hours she said she can't because she needs to feed dog. She's already complaining she hasn't seen daughter enough this week What do I do??