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Why do wealthy older men date/marry young women?

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boatyIII · 31/01/2020 20:24

I was just reading an article about the Phones4U billionaire and his £250million house, he's 67 and his partner is 36!

It seems to be a common theme, older man with a bit of money is seen with an attractive and much younger woman.

Why? Why don't they want to be with an attractive woman their own age? Why always 15/20yrs+ younger?

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vincettenoir · 31/01/2020 20:29

It’s a hangover from our evolutionary biology. Men are programmed to want to be with a woman who will give them the best chance of reproductive success. Historically high status men (whatever status means in that society) get to select the most sought after mates.

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Pollaidh · 31/01/2020 20:30

What vincettenoir said. I have a degree in evolutionary biology.

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isabellerossignol · 31/01/2020 20:32

Because they can.

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HappyHammy · 31/01/2020 20:33

Why do younger women date older wealthy millionairesConfused

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boatyIII · 31/01/2020 20:33

That's so interesting @vincettenoir !

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Cinammoncake · 31/01/2020 20:35

It's like an accessory or status symbol to them. Makes them feel like they look younger, and they think other men will envy them.

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JuniLoolaPalooza · 31/01/2020 20:35

I think the men think it makes them somehow 'better' or 'special'. Like, 36 year old mrs billionaire could be with someone her own age, hotter, fitter perhaps, but she's chosen little old billionaire me because of my amazing personality and humble assets.

On the flip side of that, and I don't like to say, but I think older men think/find younger women less 'challenging', much more likely to be in awe of them and 'you know best' dear. Easier to control, I suppose.

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Wearywithteens · 31/01/2020 20:39

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boatyIII · 31/01/2020 20:40

Yes I was thinking the same @Wearywithteens what do they even talk about!

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gnomeisland · 31/01/2020 20:41

In the words of a creepy old fucker who hung around our group when we were in our 20s, he liked "young flesh"

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Bluntness100 · 31/01/2020 20:42

who presumably are bright enough to have made money and have a bit of life wisdom choose such dullard deadhead women

That's really out of line and deeply offensive to say a woman is a dullard deadhead because she's with an older wealthy man.

I really can't recall reading anything so mysogynistic on here before.

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Wearywithteens · 31/01/2020 20:46

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BraveGoldie · 31/01/2020 20:47

To be fair, a 36 year old is probably capable of a discussion over newsnight. 🙂 I agree when there is an age gap and the younger is in their twenties, but someone in their thirties should be perfectly able to offer fully grown up adult companionship, if not shared memories of growing up in the same decade!..... I just wish it happened in both directions as frequently (male- female; female- male)

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choli · 31/01/2020 20:47

Do they never want a chat over Newsnight? Or discuss an interesting film? Or have a bit of banter? I guess not.
I see no reason why an age gap would affect those activities. Are you this hostile to all younger women?
Jealousy is not an attractive trait.

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HappyHammy · 31/01/2020 20:50

A 36 year old dolly birdSmile very 70's

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HollyBollyBooBoo · 31/01/2020 20:51

@Wearywithteens, you're saying you can't be young, attractive and have an intelligent conversation?!

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managedmis · 31/01/2020 20:55

If it was evolution, she'd be 26, not 36

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Wearywithteens · 31/01/2020 21:09

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MozzchopsThirty · 31/01/2020 21:11

Because they can

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choli · 31/01/2020 21:29

Why do younger women date older wealthy millionaires
In the case of the older man referenced in the OP, she probably finds an intelligent dynamic self made millionaire philanthropist more attractive than Joe working in Tesco. I certainly would.

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AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 31/01/2020 21:32

I did it all wrong. I married a man 22 years older than me, but he was as skint as I was. Luckily we managed to scrape by for 20 years on love and being best friends, until we were both in better jobs... neither of us dullards, thick, bimbos, perverts or weirdos. Well actually I think we were both weird (I definitely am), but not in that way.

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Bluntness100 · 31/01/2020 22:46

She's 36 years old. And quite frankly my 22 year old is capable of having a conversation over news night. It's not something women are incapable of pre menopause. Being attractive doesn't prevent it either.

Bizzaely women can be young, attractive and intelligent.. all at the same time,,and yes some of them May marry older wealthy men. Some may marry skint younger ones. Some might not marry at all.

Who knew. Eh?

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aroundtheworldyet · 01/02/2020 11:42

It’s a bit of a stereotype that these women are thick.
But yes they are all generally well groomed and extremely attractive and thin.
But I guess if you’re moving in those circles - virtually every woman is extremely attractive and well groomed and thin.

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HisBetterHalf · 01/02/2020 11:45

Why? Why don't they want to be with an attractive woman their own age? Why always 15/20yrs+ younger

Why don't the younger women want to be with someone their own age?

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