How much to give for wedding gift?

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What’s the going rate these days?

I’m invited to the whole day affair - ceremony, wedding breakfast etc. They are good friends, but not close friends. To be honest I was surprised to be invited (and honoured!) to the whole day as it is quite a small wedding.

They have asked for money, which I am happy to give but I don’t know how much is expected and I don’t want to be cheeky and mean.

I am on my own (single) and don’t earn a huge amount - think around the national average salary. All the mutual friends that I know are going are a couple or good earners so I suppose they could afford to give more.

I was thinking £20 but then thought that that was cheeky, so I am now thinking £30 but I am still worried that is cheeky and I am so out of touch with these things, I saw something online that minimum wedding gift should be £50, but I really would struggle with £50 if I’m honest because I still have to think about taxi and drinks for bar (but I won’t drink a lot).

What is considered an appropriate wedding gift these days?

Thanks in advance

I wouldn't stress too much, just give what you can - unless they are CFs then it isn't about the gift!

Give what u can give I say

What you can afford.

Thank you! I was worried because I am a bit out of touch and I would have rather bought a gift, so money threw me a bit. I think I am going to go with £30 as I really can’t afford to stretch more than that if I have to have cash for bar and taxi (not staying overnight as definitely can’t afford that)

We got married a couple of years ago and most friends gave £30-£50 as couples.

I thought that was more than enough!

Some older people, e.g. family friends gave more but it certainly wasn't expected.

I don't think £20 or £30 is cheeky at all. Surely any couple worth knowing is aware of how expensive weddings are for their guests!

Xx

As a minimum I would say what you would/could afford to pay for a day out containing food, drink and entertainment.Obviously that varies hugely from person to person and I’m sure your friends will appreciate your circumstances and be happy with you turning up, any monetary gift is fine.

You should give a gift to the value of your meal. We got on average £100 per couple.

@sunstar16 - 😨 £100 per couple would mean £50 for me and that is what I was worried about.

I know it’s a 3 course sit down meal, so likely to be quite a bit per head.
Oh so many mixed views on the internet too

If they're offended with you giving what you can afford then they're not worth having as friends. If they're inviting you to the full day of a small wedding then it's most likely that they want your company and not your money. Give what you're comfortable with and enjoy the special day.

Give what you can afford . £25-£30 is enough.

I think sunstars reply is a bit unfair. I don’t know anyone who invites people to their wedding expecting them to cover the cost of their meal or place. What the happy couple decide to put on for their wedding is up to them. We were delighted with every gift we received and were even more delighted if they gave up their time to celebrate with us on the day. Give what you wish to and write a nice card.

Pay what you can afford. For close friends we tend to give £100 from the two of us but a few years back when we were earning a fair amount less it was around £60. So I’d say £30 is plenty.

Echoing pps. We give between £50-100, but it depends on what we can afford at the time. Give what you can afford. There should be no expectation from bride/groom about what they should get from you (cover the cost of your meal and all that crap), that's not the point of a wedding!

We give between £50-£100 between us, which could be as a couple or the whole family. They have invited you because they want you there and £20 will undoubtedly be very gratefully and thankfully received.

£30 is fine!