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Met really nice guy today. Should I message him?

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Imtootired · 31/01/2020 16:40

Today I had a dishwasher delivered. The guy was really nice. My son and my baby were here and my son and I were sorting out his school stuff. I asked him if he had kids, just making conversation about all the stuff they need. He doesn’t have any but seems very much like a “dad” type. He was great explaining how to use the new dishwasher. He asked if there were three and a half people in the house, because we were talking about whether it would be good for me to set the dishwasher to half washes. I said no just two and a half so he knows I’m single. We were also talking about how bad some landlords are because I’ve had a lot of trouble with mine. He left his card in case there are any issues. I’m wondering if maybe he was keeping the door open for contact because since I’m renting things like that would go through the estate agent. My friend said maybe I should message in a few days saying thanks for his help and it’s working well or something like that. We weren’t flirting at all just had a nice chat and we inadvertently found out that we were both single, or at least I am. I assume he is because no kids and he didn’t say anything like hopefully soon etc. Would it be weird if I messaged him?

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MummyNWife · 31/01/2020 17:32

Go for it x

TinklyLittleLaugh · 31/01/2020 17:37

Also, it does sound like he was angling to find out if you are single or not, with the three and a half people question.

Just be careful, some men think single women with kids are an easy option.

Fedupwithmyhouse · 31/01/2020 17:39

Just text him woman!

‘Thanks for all your help today, was great chatting’

If he doesn’t reply you know. If he replies ‘no problem’, you know. If he replies ‘my pleasure, how was the rest of your day?’ or suchlike, you’re in.

Do it now. Now.

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picklerickkk · 31/01/2020 17:45

DO IT don’t leave it a few days! Just message saying ‘thanks so much for today! Was lovely chatting with you too’

Imtootired · 31/01/2020 17:47

I don’t mean dad type like fatherly I kind of just mean a simple, down to earth person. Hard to explain. Like I would expect him to be a family man, or be a good friend to people.
Haha thank you @fedupwithmyhouse I think I will message him but definitely not right now because it’s the middle of the night here so even if the message was perfectly casual I’d seem verrry strange

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Imtootired · 31/01/2020 17:49

Now I wish I’d done it earlier. Oh well I’ll do it on Monday maybe I don’t really want to do it on the weekend in case he thinks of it like work and it annoys him

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AlwaysOnAbloodyDiet · 31/01/2020 17:55

You could text with the pretence that you've a question about the dishwasher?

Throw in a few winks or emojis too, and see if he will play ball Wink

Praiseyou · 31/01/2020 17:57

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. It's just a text. I don't know why other posters think it would be weird.

Mamabear88 · 31/01/2020 18:11

I wouldn't get your hopes up as I think he was just being friendly and doing his job if i'm honest but there's certainly no harm in a short thank you text to see if it leads to anything.

MurrayTheMonk · 31/01/2020 18:14

When I read threads like this I'm always sad we don't live in the US... it seems much erasure culturally there to ask randoms out on dates... if the TV is to be believed obvs....

I think I would chance a 'nice to meet you, thanks for your help' kind of message -what's the worst that can happen? If he's not single he'll probably just ignore it-and you'll never have to see him again.

For all those saying don't do it-my friend did just this with a man who came round to put up her garden fence-and they've now been married for 15 years and have three kids-so it must work sometimes 🤷🏽‍♀️

MurrayTheMonk · 31/01/2020 18:15

*much easier. Not erasure. Though they did so some cracking songs...

AlwaysOnAbloodyDiet · 31/01/2020 18:20

You could order a fridge from the same company Wink

InFiveMins · 31/01/2020 18:21

Message him, I don't think it's weird at all. Just put something friendly like what has been suggested on here and see what he replies.

HermioneWeasley · 31/01/2020 18:21

It’s very common for delivery men to be hit on as part of their work. It wouldn’t be appropriate if it were a male customer messaging a female delivery driver, and it’s not appropriate the other way round.

FernBritanica · 31/01/2020 18:26

Do it! Just a friendly message saying thanks, nothing OTT. Good luck!

StudentHelp · 31/01/2020 18:32

Message him!

statetrooperstacey · 31/01/2020 18:42

Message him. Definitely.
I have had relationships/ dates/flings/ marriages! with men I have met digging up roads out side my house, ditto my work, supermarket checkout, salesmen, I’m married to the policeman who came to my house to take a statement from me! 😁🤗

managedmis · 31/01/2020 18:54

Just message him! Ask him a random dishwasher question

managedmis · 31/01/2020 18:55

I. E. Tabs or liquid?

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