Leaving breastfed toddler for the first time :(

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My partner has suggested he stays at his mums house with our dd tonight while I go out. She is a total boob monster and it’s what she wants 6am every morning. She is almost 18months so im not worried about her going without for nutritional reasons but I feel so anxious and guilty that she’s going to wake up and not understand why I’m not there and why she can’t have her usual comfort. Am I being silly? Anyone else been in the same boat? It’s really upsetting me just thinking about it.

Not been in this situation. Breastfed for 4 to 6 months and then was grateful to any family who would give us a break,

Jut throw loads of distractions toys snacks drink cuddles I'm sure she ll be fine

YABVU for using the term 'boob monster'

But yes, you're being silly. It's not going to damage her irreparably you being away for one evening whilst she's spending time with her dad and gran.

Been through this twice. The first child settled quicker with Dad and it actually gave me confidence to go our more often although he was a fair but younger (12 months). The second child was around 15months when I stayed away for a full night. My DH said he went to sleep fine but was difficult to settle again when he woke at just gone midnight so he brought him downstairs after a bit and cuddled him on the couch in front of Peppa and Bing Bunny. Then once he fell asleep he just slept together with him for the remainder of the night. He was up early, was very tired the next day but everyone survived!

You deserve time to yourself. Your DD will be fine and there won't be any lasting damage to her - I promise! Put the mum guilt away and concentrate on making the most of the time you have for you.

@hiyahen thank you that does help. I’m sure I’ll probably find it harder than dd does!

You're not being sillly at all and the term 'boob monster' is hardly offensive so ignore moany joe up there.
You know best but I think because it will be a totally different place and situation it will be distracting enough not to matter. I was worried about leaving mine (I didn't until giving birth to the next) and I get the worry completely.
I'm sure it will all be ok, everyone deserves a break

If you feed quite frequently you may be desperate to feed at 6am as your breasts will be quite full. When will your husband be back with your daughter?

@Sux2buthen agreed .. There’s always one. Yeh I hope so. @DownWhichOfLate she only feeds when she wakes up and before bed. I’ll probably go straight round there as soon as I wake up

In the nicest possible way, she's 18 months, not 18 weeks! She doesn't 'need' breast milk at 6am, it's a habit and as you say - nutritionally she will be fine. I think you are being a bit PFB to be honest (and that's whether she's your first born or not!).

She will probably be so excited about sleeping somewhere else that she'll not notice. My two and four years olds love sleeping at their grandparents and I don't think they give me much thought when they're there to be honest! Pick her up early if you're worried but you know deep down that she'll be fine I'm sure.

You might find she won't make a big deal about it at all when she wakes up. Especially if she's in a different house and you aren't there - the routine is already broken as such so you might find she just rolls with it

She's going to be fine. Been there too. You are going to get a lie in and she's going to get a drink and snack from dad. You'll have a lovely reunion!

I've been there, will be there in a few months and have looked after someone else's boob monster as well.

With my friends baby, he slept in the crook of my arm, every time he woke up I would swap him over the other side crook of my arm.

This is what I did with my breastfed babies with an added boob for them obviously.

I told my friend and she said she did the same.

I'm leaving my baby for a night in September he will be 21 months and I've no doubt still breast feeding 🙄
I've no idea what my mum will do 🤷🏼‍♀️

If you are not comfortable then don't do it. Ignore all the "PFB" rubbish, you choose when you are ready to be apart from your baby for that long and don't be pressured into it.

Would you want to breastfeed early in the morning after a big night out anyway?

Why is DP going to his Mams? Is he trying to give you a proper lie in or is he incapable of looking after DD on his own?!

Seems odd to me 🤷🏻‍♀️

I actually found it quite hard to stop BFing as we both enjoyed the comfort. However, your DD will be just fine and in fact being in a different environment will probably be easier all round as she won't wake up in her own cot wondering where you are, but at grandma's with DH.

I had to do it when I went on a work conference when DD was 10mo. It had no lasting effect and I BF DD until she was about 17mo.

Thanks everyone for the reassurance. I was all geared up to leave her for the night but DH decided to just stay home with her anyway. But ready for it next time!