What would you do.

[500milegirl]

If you broke up with your ex on fairly good terms. Nothing bad happened you just drifted apart, would you tell them if you still had feelings for them months down the line and completely regretted the decision?
We have kids so if they said no said no I’d still have to see them every other week, knowing I’d confessed I still had feelings when they didn’t.
Theres a slight chance they may feel the same way as they haven’t properly settled with another partner or anything yet?

I wouldn't say anything, it's too complicated.

I would tell them I think, but in a 'no expectations' kind of way. Is it really worth living your whole life alone with the potential that things could have gone better?

But with that said, do you actually KNOW what went wrong the first time? Do you think you can fix it? Because a second break up might not be as amicable.

My parents kept getting together and splitting up. It was awful.

Hide this from your children if you do go there.

I think we split up just because we got together young, married had children and then I grew up
When ex didn’t, I got sick of being responsible for everyone. Ex initially didn’t improve and has now really genuinely changed I can see it in him every time I see him. He lives alone and manages everything themselves and have really grown up.

I wouldn’t tell the kids at all if I was brave enough to try this and we did get back together. I genuinely believe even if he didn’t feel the same way neither of us would make it awkward, neither of us would do that to the kids.
We even spent 4 months slowly separating so it was easy on them. The school told us if we hadn’t told them they wouldn’t have realised we weren’t together.

has he finally grown up now then ??

read that with the hint of sarcasm that i was trying to convey

How long has it been since the break up? Because a few months is not really long enough to know that he's made the changes for good. He might have done it simply because he had to now that he's on his own, then you run the risk of him just reverting back to his old self when he's got you back to do it all for him.

It's a risk OP. I understand the dilemma.