My 4month old won’t stop screaming

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My 4 month old boy screams anytime I put him down, as far as I’m aware he doesn’t do it when he is at anyone else’s house but when he’s home he screams all day, he has had colic and reflux and teething in the past and is showing no signs that any of this has returned, he will scream even if he has just been fed and changed and it isn’t the same as when he’s upset and crying. When he screams he will stop instantly when I pick him up and will start just as soon as I put him down again. I have tried to not pick him up and see if he will settle himself as advised by the health visitor but no he screams until he’s picked up and makes himself sick with it. I have no idea what I can do if anyone has any suggestions x

Mine was like this. I basically just held her for a couple of months solidly. She's absolutely fine now- grew out of it in the end. My sympathies, it is tough.

I can’t put my 4 month old down much either, sounds pretty normal. Mine is held pretty much all the time and we co-sleep.
Why do you want to put him down?

Oh, I do recommend putting using a sling if you need to get stuff done.

He weighs 18 and 1/2 lbs so he is very heavy to hold all day 🙈 I’ll give the sling a try! I’ve been going all day without eating until my partners home from work and can’t even go for a pee or get dressed without him screaming, glad that I’m not the only one, hopefully he grows out of it soon! First time mum and was scared there could be something else going on with him x

I use a carrier, helps to get things done!

I buy food that I can make and eat with one hand- so microwave meals eaten with a spoon etc as I can open fridge, nuke and eat whilst holding!

It is ok to out him down for essentials though, I have to put mine down for the loo and to feed the cats and chickens. She cries but that’s unavoidable.

My son hated being put down at that age, so I wore an Ergobaby sling. It was amazing! I could just go about the day with a happy baby strapped to me :)

What you have there is a velcro baby! I used a soft wrap (think mine was a kari-me) to allow me to have my hands free, and just accepted that he needed to be held. Mine was a newborn during a very cold spring and stopped being so clingy as soon as the weather warmed up, if that's any consolation.

What happens if you get out the house with him? I always found mine were a lot more settled if I got them dressed and out the house, even if it was/is just for a drive thru coffee.

I feel your pain as my DS was exactly the same and it’s only really eased now that he’s 8 months and crawling.

A sling if a great idea as they get so heavy.

I started my babies on a bit of baby rice and apple puree at this age. He could just be hungry! I know they say six months but it's a development thing not a strict age thing. If he's lost the tongue reflex and can hold his head up without it wobbling about then he's old enough to start solids.

A walk in fresh air helps calm babies too, in my sample of a few.

He could just be hungry!

Milk fills babies up if they're given enough of it. They don't need solid food to meet that need.

@Guineapigbridge this is such nonsense, milk (boob or formula) has more calories than food. Solids do not fill babies up-that's a very outdated notion!

Get a carrier. Lifesaver in these situations.