Dh and my ds are not getting along. Dh has been in my sons life for nearly 4 years. They have had an okay relationship, but lately the arguments have become frequent and I'm not sure what to do.
I've sat them down together tried to sort it out, they both apologise and I stupidly think that that is the end of it. But it's not and two days later they are at eachothers throats again!
Both my dh and ds have mental health issues, when either one is feeling down the other seem to deliberately wind the other one up. I have said to them that as they both suffer with mh issues and know how tough it can be for them , then why can't they be more understanding and have empathy for each other.
To be honest it's hard work I feel like I have another child instead of a husband.
I know I'll get told to leave him and a part of me wants to but i really would like to try to fix this than just give up and walk away.
So not to drip feed, along with his mh problems, dh has a disability and also has been diagnosed with a personality disorder along with mh issues.He is on medication for this and depression too. My ds is seeing a child therapist weekly and is under camhs but not on any medication.
I have tried to get them to spend time together, this goes well e.g days out/weekends away etc but as soon as they are back the arguments start again.
I am constantly feeling like I'm a referee in their sometimes stupid sometimes horrific arguments.
Please dont tell me to ltb I'm looking for some advice on how I can get them to get along better.
Thank you