So my ex cheated on me when I was 6 months pregnant. I went through a lot of stress while pregnant and it was HARD, and after I gave birth I was forced to just forget everything and enjoy and be strong for my baby even if I was unhappy inside because I didn’t get the happy ending I wanted. However now we’re trying to be a family. Not a couple, not friends, just family.
My problem is that I feel like his parents are a bit too involved. They were very excited about their first grandchild but they kind of ruined it for me. First of all, they come over announced. I just wake up with them here no matter if my family came over or if my friends are coming around, they just come. Second of all they kiss my baby on the lips, and when I told them nicely not to do that I was the b**ch. I didn’t even feel like explaining myself. This is my child, my rules. That’s it. Third of all they always mention the baby going over or then taking the baby out by themselves. They even mentioned giving by newborn castor oil and water??? I tried to breastfeed my baby last time because she was screaming and I just had them take her from my hands for “10 more minutes”.
My point is, I don’t want to upset my baby’s father or his parents because we’re supposed to be a family, but this is very toxic for me. I still feel very overprotective over my baby and it’s hard to see things like this, they feel like it’s their right to come whenever they want and enjoy themselves, I see it more of an opportunity if I’m honest especially after the stress their son put me through. Am I exaggerating? How can I stop it without everyone looking at me like I’m evil?