How to tell my mum

[monikagabi]

Hi,so i have a slight dilemma, my mum lives abroad,she dosent see my kids often(once in 2 years or so). She doesnt even speak same language as kids .last time we visited my mums,my eldest got frustrated and he pull a light of the wall.he never behaved like that before or after.he is 9 years old now and younger one is 6.my mum want them for summer holidays,but i am not happy with that,she is complete stranger to them and how they will communicate? Yeah its fun for kids and what not,but if kids gonna miss me or cry for me i wont be able to just jump in the car and get them,flight is about 4 hrs .i dont think my mum realizes this and i dont know how to tell her without her being offended

Sounds like they're pretty young to be going abroad alone without their parent(s) for such a long time. I'd say "Not right now, perhaps when they're older" and leave it at that.

Not right now, perhaps when they're older is a good idea.

Why don't they speak any of her language and can you start to teach them some?

Thanks guys,mum only speaks german and slovakien,cuz she is working in germany,i have tried to teach them other languages ,but as they use english only and have no other language at home to use its hard to remember things.let alone use sentences! It is expensive to travel these days abd especially for family of 5,and my mum works most of the year so when she get a chance it is like once a year and many times she goes on holidays somwhere else .i tried to explain to jer without hurting her feelings,how it is,but she got proper offended and she said i am stopping her to spend some time with kids.but lets be honest i am no millionaire, i have not been on holiday with my partner yet and we have made an effort to come and see my mum ,before our 3rd one was born .its just not enough.and i can't be satisfying every one around..

Tell her it's cheaper if she travels to you.
They are too young to be away from you staying with a virtual stranger.