Baby blues after a week? I'd that possible

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Dc3 is a week old. The last 2 days I just want to cry. No mega reason. I'm not a 'Cryer' and dh is finding this hard to understand that I can't give a reason for it.
He's only ever seen me cry if I'm angry.

The last week has been so hectic. Ds came mega quick. So can't get my head aorund that. From leaving home to returning him with a baby 7 hours!
Visitors in and out but at awkward times so it's ballsing up dinner.. Tonight I just wanted to cook a nice veg dinner.
Instead 2 sets of gp turned up.. Fine but 3 hours later still there. Leave at 6pm. Sod Prepping and cooking then. We norm eat latest 6.30.

DH suggested today to do some clothes shopping for me. I find this stressful at the best of times so today it was really stressful.. I did one shop for me and that was it.. He's then saying how I keep saying I need a hair cut but I just don't have the time. Even his paternity time is swallowed with the kids. And appointments for baby.
He was going on and on how I do nothing for myself.. Which yes is true but I kept saying ill sort it and I woild of.

Trying in clothes I felt awful.. I only needed basics until I lose weight. But he kept trying to help to chose clothes that aren't me or shall. I say what I'm used to.
We then got side tracked kitting him and the kids out. So came away with nowt.

I'm. Now in the mood of I'm not cooking and I don't want convenience food or take away. I'm happy with toast or something. But then ds and dh are saying they won't order if I don't want something. Which makes me feel utter shite.

Sad in bath crying so they don't keep saying what's up? And believing they've done something wrong.

All I want to do is fuck off to bed but toddler still awake and wild. So no chance of peace.

You are an amazon woman!

One week old and entertaining shopping trips, cooking and visitors! I was barely breathing at that stage.

No wonder you want to cry. Stay in the bath as long as you can, try for an early night and weep whenever you want to.

If it lasts more than a week maybe see your GP, but to me it sounds like you are exhausted and overwhelmed.

Fuck me. I feel exhausted reading that never mind with a new born to look after.

It’s sounds like a mixture of hormone crash and exhaustion made worse by inconsiderate people.

DH needs to start being a gatekeeper. He needs to contact people and say they can’t come round without prior arrangements as you are trying to keep things normal for the other kids and get some rest. If they turn up unannounced then tell them they will have to come back at another time. DH should be cooking while you chill on the sofa, you have just given birth.

As for clothes for you. Do you have a credit card? Can you just order loads of supermarket clothes, try them on at home and return the ones you don’t want.

I know I'm exhausted.
Honestly with the previous 2 dcs I was shit for a week.
But this one as I say its so fast. I came home. My mum was there with the others. My dad came to take ds to school and stayed for a cuppa before this was 7.30am..
Dh went to grab some bits from. Work as he left in a rush the night before. I hoovered and got sorted as I knew people would turn up. Now that I don't mind but 10.hours of visitors right on tea time too.
I was lucky in I had no stitches or anything so had a shower and honestly felt fine

Dd is going thro a sleep regression. Waking 10 times a night. Which disturbs us all.

Shopping wasn't for long as baby had an appointment in afternoon. But like I say I hate it best of times. Now I feel crap as I wanted new bits.. In fact needed noew bits and got nothing so have to wear my maternity stuff which is already baggy

Dh has done everything else. I like to cook, he's also a crap cook and would be pasta dishes which no one really eats.. Maybe 1 a week at a push. I honestly don't mind that bit. But I like to start cooking at 5 ish.. I normally do that for when dh gets in. We eat all together and then bath kids get sorted and chill.
Since baby we've chilled later than when he's working..
I'm sat here thinking I wouldn't even know how to relax now as this week has been so crap.

Oh honey..yes I felt my lowest about this stage. Its so hard when you have a toddler too. I went out days 2 and 3 but by day 4 & for next week was lucky if I got dressed/brushed my teeth!
Your husband is trying to help you but I think the clothes shopping idea was suggested with good intentions but the totally wrong time... Nothing fits, looks right and I'm sure you really can't be bothered... 😂

I think you need to limit visitors more or get them to be helpful (take toddler out, let you go to bed or cook you all a nice family meal...
You are tired as trying to do so much. Survival and nothing more is fine at this stage!
For a later date could you squeeze in a hair cut, massage or invite a friend around ? If not tell your husband you only have 1 need... More sleep... And if he can help with that... That'd be grand!

Good luck.. And congrats

Do you have a cook shop near you that can deliver... They do a discount for new mums and this could help with some meals

Ah OP, I feel your pain completely. I'd agree with PPs though... order a load of cheap basics online in a few sizes and return the ones that don't fit, get DH to speak to family/friends and explain you're knackered so could they give some warning for their visits for a while and keep to certain times. Your DH sounds like he wants to help and is trying to say the right things, but his timing is a bit off IYSWIM? But if he's generally good I'd just be honest with him and explain you're feeling overwhelmed by everything and need a quiet couple of days. If that doesn't help, definitely speak to the midwife/HV/your GP and accept any help offered. Best of luck

It's the normal hormonal crash at this time many mum's get it and considering everything else you've got going on I'm not surprised.

Why don't you ask visitors to come at a more conviante time for you. There is nothing wrong in asking this. You all sound like you need some time without people crowding round.

I’d tell your visitors if they’re coming they need to bring a cooked meal 😬 cheeky I know!
Give yourself a break OP. You have done amazing and it’s just early days!

You're a marvel, I hate shopping at the best of times. Also this time round also with DC3 I was even more of an emotional wreck than with the others. He's 4months now but I vividly remember bawling at day 2 because I couldn't get the car seat out of the car, bawling at day 5 because the midwife had given us the wrong appointment for his blood spot test and I was in the wrong place, bawling for about three days straight after they raised concerns about his weight loss. I found it so hard having to travel back to hospital for paeds check, blood spot and also midwife checks (might be different in your area) when I had the others this was all done at home. Anyway that was waffy but yes it's normal to feel a bit shellshocked and emotional still on day 5. Have a lazy few days if you can, politely refuse visitors or make excuses (unless they're the helpful kind who will run the hoover round or play with the toddler and make you lunch). Xx

Not one single visior except a teenager has offered to help. Not than I expect it. They sit there waiting for a drink or whatever. I find myself getting wound up.
To be honest I'm hoping novelty has worn off for most. And ones who haven't visited are the type to arrange a good time. And not Outstay their welcome.

Agree about the appointments it's all Changed

We've had to. Return for the birth checks as not done before discharge.
Then the blood spot at a different loacation
Hearing another location different to the other 2
Hv to home.
Then birth certificate.
Thats tied up so many days of dhs paternity I feel we've not had chance to actually be a family.