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Anyone need a friend?

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UniKittie · 28/01/2020 00:08

I’ve got to the grand old age of 30 and I’ve lost my last friend😔. Feeling down about it at the moment.

I thought I would start a thread where anyone can just have a chat and maybe make a new friend or two.

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Louisana · 28/01/2020 00:16

Heyyy

I'm really sorry to hear about losing your friend.

How are you feeling ? I'm more than happy to have a chat as I could do with a friend too :)

thesunwillout · 28/01/2020 00:31

Hiya, I've got one left, at late 40's, and truly don't understand how this happened. People have just faded.
I always thought at my age I'd have lots! Yet, it is what it is.
Thanks for starting the thread, you're really not alone. X

UniKittie · 28/01/2020 08:25

I had a good group of friends until I got pregnant and they all seemed to disappear bar one. Best friends for nearly 20 years has got a new man and job and we’re just at different stages of our life now.

It can be a little lonely. Sometimes it would be nice to just go out for a coffee and catch up or moan about my husband/kids/life.

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Butwhhhyyyyyyy · 28/01/2020 09:37

Im mid/late 40's and friends just seem to have drifted away over the years until you realise you don't have any, everyone I see seems to have friends but me, glad to know I'm not alone x

84claire84 · 28/01/2020 09:51

Hey

Hope your ok. I only have a small handful of proper friends now and I think I much prefer it this way

What I've found is that in my experience we make new friends as we go along. Like for example separating from a partner can mean you lose a couple of "friends" however meeting someone new you gain a couple of new friends. Or when you have a child you make some new mum "friends" and as they join different schools you lose them but make some new mum friends at the new school. Same with jobs.

I think forums like this are brilliant for keeping in touch with people and the outside world.

Have a think about what you want from life. Maybe join a course or a club or volunteer somewhere local. It's a great way to meet new people

UniKittie · 28/01/2020 09:52

I know what you mean, it seems everyone I know is always out with friends. It’s a horrible feeling😔.

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UniKittie · 28/01/2020 09:59

I think I’m at a totally different life stage to my old friends. I’m more dinner party and drinks and they are out clubbing to the early hours. I’ve got a house, kids and studying for a degree whereas they have no kids and less responsibilities in general. Though my kids are in secondary now but still very time consuming.

I think I’m going to make it my goal this year to try make time and get myself out there and do something different.

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TotorosFurryBehind · 28/01/2020 10:20

Where are you? I'm in Plymouth

TheChosenTwo · 28/01/2020 10:23

Where are you based? I have friends and they are a constant in my life. I’d hate to think some people don’t have (but would like) a friendship and am happy to extend the hand of friendship - even as a pen pal!

fuelledbycoffee · 28/01/2020 10:28

I'll be your friend OP. I'm 32 with a two year old and live over 100 miles away from my family and friends (the few that remain). I don't have any friends where I live, just my DP, so know exactly how you feel. Lots of love xxx

TheChosenTwo · 28/01/2020 10:31

And also, you can have a moan about anything on here. You’ll get the odd person trying to dissect it all and find a cause for why you feel the need to share it all and judge you but generally we all need somewhere to safely and anonymously have a whinge and a moan about things in the knowledge that none of it will get back to those involved. So make sure you use us, we are actually a very compassionate and caring bunch on the whole and you’ll get some excellent advice along the way Xmas Envy

TheChosenTwo · 28/01/2020 10:31

Totally wrong thing there, was meant to be Flowers

Didicat · 28/01/2020 10:45

I feel all mine are slowly slipping away and I’m planning on moving house so not sure what that may mean for the friendships....

UniKittie · 28/01/2020 10:51

I’m in North Ayrshire, just outside Glasgow.

My family are within 10 mins drive but there is just something’s you don’t want to tell them. My DH is great but I don’t want to rely on him all the time.

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