How to stop always planning what you’re gonna respond when someone’s talking?

[Jaybird100]

How to stop always planning what you’re gonna respond when someone’s talking?

I have this awful habit of only partially listening to people and always planning in my head what my response will be or my mind conjures up a different topic I’m desperate to discuss next.

I sometimes do it as I’m worried there will be a silence after they finish which will be awkward or they’ll think I’m blank minded if I stare at them in silence once they’re done. (With people I don’t know well)

But with people I know well, I’m always just wanting to talk to almost show off my knowledge and for the dopamine hit of talking about myself (which most humans are guilty of)

So with both people I do know well and those I don’t, it’s the same issue albeit for different reasons and I’ve had this awful habit my whole life!

Bump

ADHD?

I do this - isn’t it normal?!

I do it too.....most people can't be socially brilliant all the time.

Op this is a bad habit which most of us are guilty to to an extent. I think you're being hard on your self. I keep having to remind myself to actually listen to what people are saying. But I am not as down as myself as you seem to be.