What would you say to the parents of your child's bully...

[Teaandtampax]

...if you had the opportunity?

I don't think they even know sometimes. My daughter was bullied horrendously in primary by one girl. Teachers were great though and talked of behaviour plans etc etc but she was still a complete bitch to my daughter. About 5 years later karma came calling and this girl was getting proper bullied in middle school (my dd stayed in primary) and her dad had put on fb that he'd be mortified if any of his kids was a bully. I can only guess from that that they were never ever told despite the severity of it. Either that or he was in complete denial

I get the Karma

They are trapped in set classes in primary.
Come secondary they can chose their friends and they walk away from horrid kids who bully. Bully then left friendless with parents wailing!! Serves them right.

What can I do to help you stop your child hurting my child? I am willing to try anything. My poor child is just broken and it is breaking me as a parent that I can't help them. We have tried everything at home to help them and the only other thing I can think of is to help you to help them stop being so cruel to my child.

GreenTulips that gives me hope, because at the moment it's the bullies that are the popular ones.

You're right though - I've always thought that mixing classes up every year would help to sort out some of these issues, otherwise they're trapped - that's exactly the right word.

No mixing classes won,t help unless it is just one person bullying which it often isn,t.

There's nothing to say, they would deny it ever happened or simply not listen.

The reason the child is a bully is due to the parents.

I would say fucking fuck you you awful awful man.

I wouldn't say anything, in my day dreams I punch her straight in the face as hard as I possibly can. And no, I don't give flying fuck what that makes me. Her son has destroyed my child. I want her to feel some of the pain her son has caused me. I close my eyes and dream of vengeance, every day. And then I have to pick myself up so that I can pick ds up and try to put him back together to face another day with that little fucking bastard. All over again. This is what bullies do. They destroy whole families and whole lives.

If that's the kind of language your child thinks it is acceptable to use* then I wonder what actually goes on at home. Perhaps you need to take a long, hard look at yourself and your family before blaming all and sundry. Your child is a horrible, nasty, spiteful individual.

some extremely foul disablist language used to describe me. Along the lines of Spc, crie, re*d and mog. Plus comments about re**ds shouldn't be allowed to breed.

I would say.

Your ds may think it's acceptable to call mine a spastic and a retard. But it's criminal. And if you don't stop it from today then I'll make sure the
police do.

Tbf I told the school something similar and they had his parents in. I don't know outcome of his parents attitude but ds said he's much better in lessons in general behaviour and the incidents are smaller and name calling isn't disablist.

I'd say to my friend.

You've spent all your now teen DDs lives saying how the whole world bullies them. How everything is everyone else's fault. You turn a blind eye to them physically assaulting you. You just ignore them telling you you're a stupid bitch, cunt, to go off and die somewhere and fuck off. I understand you think ignoring is the best way.
But you need to recognise who are the bullies here and should have made it clear it wasn't ok when ignoring didn't stop it at 8yo. Because 6 years later they are bigger stronger and worse

This:
This is what bullies do. They destroy whole families and whole lives.