Dd and her dummy

[FancyPants20]

Ok, i already know this is Not Good so no need to all pile on to tell me so...Dd is nearly 4 and still uses a dummy at night.
We've discussed leaving it under her pillow for the little mouse (we're in Europe and that's the story told here) like the character in her book, but every time I suggest it, I get a firm No.
Dp seems to think we should wait until she's ready to give it up, but I don't know if she ever will be, tbh. And obviously I'm worried about her teeth the longer we leave it.
So what should we do, o wise ones? Just take it away and suffer the inevitable sleepless trauma or keep working on getting her to give it up of her own accord?
Thanks

My daughter was 3 and absolutely loved her dummy.
I did give her a bit of warning that it would have to go after a certain event.
It actually broke around that time and didn't feel as nice and I didn't replace it.
I dreaded doing it thinking she would never sleep again but it took about 24hours for it to be forgotten!

Is there something special she wants for her birthday which I assume is coming up? Would she exchange dummy for said special item? Tbh whenever you do it it's going to be a wrench for her and possibly a couple of disturbed nights so pick a time (weekend or when you have a bit of time off) and just go with it. My DC were all different, eldest dd1 was nearly 5 and very attached, and ds (age 3) left them out for Santa. Dd2 gave hers to baby cousin when 2.5, youngest (just turned 3) threw hers in the bin in a temper when I told her to put them in her bed. (All of my DC were only allowed have then in bed.) Took all of them a bit longer to settle for the first few nights but it honestly wasn't as bad as I expected.

We just took away our 3.5 year olds dummy. One day I said it was in the car and daddy had the car out he went to sleep and the next night I said I couldnt find it he's not bothered since I was astounded I expected days of hell.

Just bin it, no fairy tales

Just do it OP. It's doesn't matter if you don't get her to agree to it (although obviously that would be nice!) - it's one of those times when you just have to put your foot down because of damage to her teeth. Like a pp I actually found it much easier than I was expecting.

I cut the end off my DSs and said it had worn out, there's no comfort in it if it doesn't suck.

He sent them off to the dummy fairy and they were swapped for a toy.

He was 2.6 and the dentist took one look in his mouth and said it was affecting his bite, his palette and would affect his adult teeth too if he had it much longer.

He only had it at night. We had a few nights of wailing for it but it was fine. Rather that than years of painful orthodontia. His teeth are already growing in straighter and his bite is correcting itself.

She doesn't have to agree! You're the parent and you're doing the best thing for her. We sent ours to Santa as we stopped near Christmas. We had a couple of nights of crying on and off and then DD just forgot about her dummy completely and slept fine. The only way to do it is cold turkey. Good luck.

Binned DSs 3.5 and exchanged it for a paw patrol toy.

Both of my DC loved their dummies and I dreaded taking them off them. Both of them left them out for the Dummy fairy at about 3.5 yo, the Dummy fairy left them a gift.

DD had forgotten about her dummy after 24 hrs, DS wanted to swap back but we told him the Dummy fairy could not do it and that was that.

Both times weren't nearly as traumatic as I'd imagined.

Good luck!

@FancyPants20 we are in the exact situation. I've just broached it with dd and she reckons she's going to send them to my friends baby tomorrow. She did this with them in the day time and the fairies bougt her a kinder egg for a few day. I think it's choosing a date and sticking to it. Really hope it works for you!

Right, thanks all. I'm going to try it tonight. I've told her the little mouse will bring her money in exchange and she can use it to pick out a new jigsaw for herself (she loves jigsaws, the tiny weirdo). She's only half convinced, but im going with it.
Send thoughts and prayers.

How did it go fancypants

Take it off her, she'll cery for a bit, parent up

Made one of mine put it on bonfire before he was two.
Another one put it on the xmas tree for FC to take for another child, also under two.
They cried a bit, but soon got over it. If you are this soft you need to toughen up for what's to come as a parent.

Zero judgement here! DD is 4 next month and I can't for the life of me get rid of it at bed time. We're due a new baby in the next week or two and if I'm honest I'm reluctant to do it with the upheaval of becoming a big sister.

She has, however, said she's going to give it to the fairies when she's 4 so I'm interested to see if she does it of her own accord after her birthday.

Sometimes I get stressed out about it but then I have to remind myself that she's 3, it's only at bed time and you don't see 15 year olds with them 🤷‍♀️

DS2 was called the dummy monster. We didn't manage to get it off him until he was six. He is now 21, funnily enough he has no long term trauma. Seriously, stop stressing about it and do what is right for YOUR family x