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I'm pregnant and considering an abortion

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Cagnew1 · 25/01/2020 11:39

I'm 21 years old and have a 13 month old baby girl and have recently found out I'm pregnant again. Neither of my pregnancies have been planned and have both happened while being on the pill consistently. My frist pregnancy was tough, my family found it hard to accept aswell as pregnancy itself. Now that my daughter is here life couldn't be any better but i fear if i continue this pregnancy I'll have to go through that same suffering and hurt all over again. Emotionally it took its toll on me and i considered taking my own life which is again why im scared to continue this pregnancy.

But a part of me wants to keep it, I've always wanted 2 kids, ive wanted a friend for my daughter, i love babies, my partner is a fantastic parent and i know the baby would be so so loved.

But my partner wants me to have an abortion because the timing isnt right and we arent stable financially as we just got our first home. He is very supportive but has made it clear he does not want this child.

Please any advice at all is helpful because where i come from the topic of abortion is very very taboo so i feel very alone. Thank you.x

OP posts:
Dowser · 25/01/2020 13:12

Oh gosh...I don’t know how I can help you..but if you feel this way don’t abort
I was having a third. Contraception failed. No one wanted me to have this baby, including my husband, I had two children under three and the second one didn’t sleep.

I just couldn’t do away with it. I imagined a blonde blue eyed little girl like my daughter and it would haunt me for the rest of my life.

What I got was another boy. With twisted hands and feet and a cleft lip and palate...my world just crashed around me.

Well, we got on with the job of learning how to feed him just to keep him alive.
Everyone rallied round.

He was a great support when his dad cheated on me and upped and left 15 years ago.
He’s given me three fabulous grandsons.
We got through it op
He brought a lot of love with him ..my boy.

Needallthesleep · 25/01/2020 14:11

Any reason that you need to have an abortion is a good enough reason. Think about yourselves first and foremost. I’m sure you will make the right decision.

SuzieBishop · 25/01/2020 14:14

First and foremost it’s YOUR decision, but your partners. I have no advice as I’ve never been through it but just wanted to say that. Lots of love x

SuzieBishop · 25/01/2020 14:14

NOT your partners sorry

Apileofballyhoo · 25/01/2020 14:14

Dowser that's lovely to read.

OP, you need to do what's best for you, not anyone else.

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