Nuisance neighbours

[Piper1985]

We have not long moved into a property myself my fella and our two young baby's , the house is lovely my fella is killing himself to make the house a home but our next door neighbour is a nightmare!!!!!!! She has kids herself , she is in a toxic relationship and her bloke is like a child ,hangs around with young lads who all have crossers ....so you can imagine what the noise is like?? There's obviously a lot of drug use going on as her bloke has not long been in court for growing plants! There's party's at weekends there's always people on the fronts .....its that bad I can smell pot in my kitchen at times.
She has got no respect at all .....I feel sorry for her kids. She is to wrapped up in her toxic relationship than being a parent. I know its not my business what goes on on her life and if I'm honest I really wouldn't want it my business but it's affecting myself and my family now. My fella is livid and I have to tell him to try and ignore it all or he will be thee one getting locked up for kicking off as it's not nice when he loses Hus temper......and the last thing I want is my fella in prison!!!!! I'm at the end of my tether now .....anyone got any advice???

Sounds like you are living next to a previous neighbour of mine.

Best advice I can give is to stay calm and non-confrontational, and complain to the council about antisocial behaviour and noise nuisance. Chances are you won't be the only neighbour of theirs who is complaining. And phone the police every time there is any kind of disturbance, especially any drug-related concerns that you have.

Tell your dp in no uncertain terms that he has to stay out of it - let the authorities deal with it.

if they own it you just have to put up with it or move. But as most druggies don't have mortgages, it may well be a rental. Contact landlord/agent about the drug use. Look it up on rightmove and see who the last agent was.

I don't know what a crosser is, but it saddens me how low this woman's standards are.

The only problem there is its a private rented house so there's only so much I can do about it. If I'm honest I'm funding because the girl that lives there has no respect for anyone. We have a 6 month old baby and a 2 year old. I don't care whatl goes on in her life , I couldn't care less but I dont want her crap affecting my family.

'They all have crosses???' What does that mean? I assume you don't mean they are wearing Christian crosses on a necklace, but no idea what else is it?

We had issues with anti-social behaviour and noise from upstairs neighbours. They too rented, but we didnt know the agent and the owner lived abroad.

Our council gave us a noise complain form, and each time it was unacceptable, we logged it down. They said that if needed, they would come to our home with noise detector microphones to check the levels and prosecute. Have you spoken to the council?

I call a motorbike a crosser ..... Us moving isn't a option as that's the last thing that will be happening. The house is private rented. If I'm honest I've not got many options I can take. And being honest if the police were called they would turn up two days later. It really does my head in how tpbad this is and how its out of my hands.

Yes I have spoke to the council but because the house is private rented they can't do much

yes and no. They don't want the landlord evicting because they may have to house these low-lifes. But they can enforce anti-nuisance laws. The police can't help because the dealing is inside the property and believe me your neighbours know this.

as I said, the landlord needs to be alerted - he/she may not do anything but should have the chance. Bear in mind that eviction takes up to a year.

there is no reason you should have to live next door to scum but it will be a battle. Keep your partner out of it though, he's quite likely to get knifed if he gets involved.

I know you are right ....the landlord is apparently in the same circle as them I've been told ...you would have to see it to believe it...so many times I have wanted to go round and have it out with them. But you know how that goes. Something needs to happen though because its beyond a joke. The girl that lives there also drives and drives the car pissed most of the time. Her fella is 32 going on 16 he even went off with her best mate and now he's back. I feel sorry for the kids

If you are concerned about the childrens welfare, then I'd call social services.

I’d just give notice and move if I were you. Seems the easiest option.

If you want to stay living there then report, report, report to the police, the council, their antisocial behaviour department if your council has one, their landlord. See if your neighbours can support your reports then it is not your word against the other family. If you own your property, be aware that when you sell, legally you will have to declare everything.

Log everything but do not retaliate. Do not allow these people or this situation to provoke you or your partner into doing something that you regret or that will backfire in any way, shape or form upon you or your children. These situations are resolvable but they can take a long time and a lot of hard work.

Having lived in a similar situation, my honest advice would be to stay on good terms with these people if you can while you sell up and move on asap. No, you shouldn't have to move but sometimes that is the only resolution to these problems. I'm so sorry that you and your family are going through this. Please stay safe. Good luck.

A similar situation to me and my neighbours. Drug use, openly, in the front garden, even whilst holding the baby. Arguing and fighting in the street, feuds with rival gangs who have put their front windows through at least twice, local ne'er do wells hanging round all times of day and night, my house stinks of weed and the police once tried to bust my front door down thinking it was next door's house (we got a number plate for the house after that mistake, none of the houses in our street have them so it's easily mistaken). I know that he was violent and abusive towards her, wouldn't let her have any money, took her mobile phone when he went out on the leash leaving her with no money no nappies and no way to contact her dad to bring any to her. After one beating where he was yelling he was going to kill her, I called social services and they investigated. The strain of it ended their relationship but she is much happier now, has a new chap who seems decent, and has a lot of support from her parents, who her ex had isolated her from.

Moving is definitely not an option as we have done so much to this house ....if anyone should go its her......me and my fella are holding it down not to say anything to her or to kick off about it ,but sometimes its hard!!! She just so disrespectful and has no consideration for anyone....I have said to my bloke just try his best ignore it because karmas a bitch and she will soon enough get what she deserves!!!!! But there's no way we are moving. We haven't been here that long either.....I speak to one of her family members and I've told her about it and that all the crap isn't on ......she agrees with me!!!!! I've told her it has to stop. I really couldn't care less about her messed up life she's a sucker for punishment so she deserves everything she gets. I think her bloke has gone again as well but don't know how long for this time?? But come on he went with her best mate behind her back for months and she still had him back!!!!