Am I Being A Brat?

[MyGhastIsFlabbered]

My mum and I usually talk daily. But over the last 2 weeks she's not called at all, she e-mailed to say she's in a very bad place (depression) and not up to conversation. Fair enough but every time she e-mails she asks how the DCs are-not once has she asked me if I'm ok. I don't know if it's relevant but she stayed with us over Christmas and just before she went back I went to the dr as my mood was plummeting-she knows my ADs have been increased.

Am I being a brat for thinking she could at least ask how I am? We do have a complicated relationship and there is a back story but I'd rather avoid telling it if possible because it will just take too long.

Kindly, you are a little bit. I assume you ask how she's doing? It is hard, I understand that, but it doesn't sound like she's in a place to give you what you need.

You could try to broach the subject by saying that you're having trouble at the moment. See how she responds to that. I'd be wary though as surely her ignoring or dismissing it could make you feel worse....

If she's in a bad place she's probably doesn't feel able to support you at the moment.

Have you got anyone else you can look to for a bit of extra support right now, friends/other family members?

I suspect the back story and the complicated relationship probably do matter quite a lot here. Does she have a history of treating you and your difficulties as low-priority, or suddenly developing a much bigger problem that means she can't possibly support you? There must be a reason why you are feeling aggrieved and let down.

I don't need her support but once again I feel like I don't even register...does that make sense? I've tried to offer support to her and made suggestions of how she can help herself but she doesn't even acknowledge them...I may as well have not bothered. I know suggestions aren't always welcome when you're in a bad place but I was genuinely trying to help. Even if she'd just said 'thanks but I'm not up to that'