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Getting ducks in a row

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Freshnewus · 23/01/2020 20:50

So, I have decided to leave my DH, after a long time of unreasonable and ? Abusive behavior.

I have 2 toddlers and we jointly own our house. Have been married nearly 4 years. Lived together 5 years. Together 9 years.

I have always paid as much as I can towards mortgage. Gave 95% of my maternity pay and now I am working again, I pay about 80% of my wages into the joint account.
He has been able to save a fair amount each month as he earns a lot more.
But will I be entitled to half of this?

I sound cold. But I'm very upset and having a moment of rational thinking.

Please can I have some advice on where to start and the steps I need to take before I announce this to him. I pressume seeing a solicitor is first?

I don't earn very much and am sure that he will not be very nice about the whole situation.

I am useless. I have no control over finances. He tracks everything. My Money, my emails, post, likely phone messages.... Possibly my mumsnet account😖
I am the lower earner, but I look after the children and run a very small business, (he is not a shareholder)

What should my steps be? Thank you

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Freshnewus · 23/01/2020 21:30

Is it too soon to bump 😟

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aibutohavethisusername · 23/01/2020 22:10

If he is tracking and controlling everything then definitely see a Solicitor first. Best wishes for the future.

Freshnewus · 23/01/2020 22:20

Thank you. I think solicitor first.

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