How long until you felt settled in new job?

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I started in Nov but I travelled to different offices initially I’ve only been regularly coming into my home office since 7th Jan.
Still feel really awkward and very much the new girl. Everyone has been here a long time so know each other very well. They’re welcoming and have arranged a meal out tonight which is really nice. But I can’t help feeling awkward still. I suffer from anxiety and it’s skyrocketing a bit at them moment especially with upcoming social situation.

How long did it take you to feel at ease in a new office?

Anybody?

I think it takes at least 6 months. Sometimes a year. Hang in there and give it a go if you can.

Eeek that sounds like a long time. Just hate feeling so out of place.

I've always felt awful the first 2/3 weeks of a new job. After a month or two normally more settled as you get to grips with the organisation, culture, people and role.
I think by six months you'll feel fully settled and not like the newbie anymore! Seems like forever but you'll get there quicker than you expect.

I started at my new job end of July last year and I am still settling in!! but I have extreme social anxiety and this place is much, MUCH, bigger than the last place I worked. its getting easier though.

It probably takes me 8 months to a year ish to settle in a new job. Keep on going!

6 months and still not settled but far more so than 3 months ago, passing out dramatically in work yesterday certainly hasn't helped 🤦🏼‍♀️

I think the bigger the work place then the longer it takes, I have worked in smaller places which has took maybe 3 months for it to feel 'normal'.

Oh disappointed by the length of time it’s taken for you to feel settled. I hate feeling like this. But thank you all for your replies. I guess I just have to get on with it and not be to hard on myself if I still feel a bit out of place in 6 months time. Trouble is it’s only a 2. 5 year contract so if I can’t get another role here I’ll have to do it all over again.

It was 5/6 months for me, two and a half years on I feel like part of the furniture.

They’re welcoming and have arranged a meal out tonight

If it helps, I found it really hard to settle in a new job with a new colleague who'd been there years when I joined. She just didn't say much to me except when I directly asked her questions.

After a while we went out for lunch and chatted as people, not colleagues, and she transformed into one of the loveliest women I knew. I'm still in touch with her some 15 years after we parted ways.

Always takes me 3 months to feel 'ok' and get to grips with my role and new systems. But 6 months until I feel I fit in socially and get used to the new routine properly.

To feel settled, maybe three weeks or a month. To feel totally at home longer, but settled makes a big difference

It definitely takes me 3-6 months at least to feel I know what I'm doing (most of the time) and to learn everyone's communication style in the team - and to generally relax a bit instead of worrying they'll think they made a massive mistake hiring me and all hate me

I think its incremental. I started a new job about 18 months ago and felt WRETCHED for the first 3 months, then I felt like I had a bit of a handle on the actual job but still felt like a fish out of water for the next 3 months and then I felt mostly ok but every so often something would crop up that I hadn't encountered before and it would throw me back to the feeling of 'oh no I don't have a clue..' but it passed quicker each time.

Once I'd been through the full work cycle of a year it made a huge difference and now I feel like I am part of the furniture and fully owning it.

I think it also depends on the type of work, I work on a lot of projects and HATED seeing out / delivering someone else's projects when I had not been there for the planning or developing of them (mostly because I would have done them better differently.

Once I started working on my own projects, that was the real turning point for me I think.

Don't give up, it is challenging and unsettling but one day you'll realise it is no longer an effort and then you'll know you've cracked it.

ps I agree with a PP, try to build a support network for yourself with some peers if you can.

Depends on scale I think, and on how much specific knowledge you’re expected to be able to have at your fingertips and how many relationships you need to build from scratch and how much strong direction you have for your work vs how much you need to be defining your own priorities and outputs. I’m six months in and only just feel like I know what I’m doing in this role - and I’ve only moved within the same (large) organisation! But less time than that to feel like I know my way around and to the toilets and tea point and feel that I can go for lunch with a colleague or something.

Depends a bit how well you gel with your immediate team too IMO - the last time I started a new job, I was new to the organisation and my line manager started the same week as me and the other member of our mini team was only a few months in, and we had a great deal in common and quickly hit it off and that felt great in only a few weeks. My current team are mostly perfectly lovely people, but I can’t see any of them becoming lifelong friends this time around, so the social side is coming slower and will probably never feel as easy as that previous team.

Started September and I feel very comfortable around everyone. Convo can be a little dry but that's likely due to them being so much older than me. But I like everyone