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How often are you asked for money at work?

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ElderAve · 22/01/2020 21:10

Where I work it seems to be constant, in theory it's all voluntary, but we get a lot of reminders and expressions of disappointment if insufficient is collected.

It's things like:

Charity dress down days
Birthdays - big ones for the entire staff, every year ones for the immediate team
Flowers for anyone off sick for more than a week or two
Flowers for anyone bereaved
Charity donations in memory of deceased parents
Leaving gifts
Donations in lieu of Christmas cards
Secret Santa
Other fundraising events

The Charity ones, the boss will set up a just giving page and make one donation on behalf of the organisation, so she knows what's been given by whom and will send reminders as she sees necessary.

Same with birthdays, I'm on the leadership team and she will buy a present for each member and tell us what we owe (which is better than me having to buy the present, I accept Grin )

Usually these things are organised by a colleague and easy enough to ignore but this is all coming from the top with significant pressure.

The most recent one is a donation in memory of a colleague's father. She's a good colleague, a friend, I'd never met her father but it's a good charity I don't have any problem supporting but I've had 4 reminders in 4 days!

I think I'm fairly generous with charity and as a senior member of staff I can afford it, not everyone can. It's the demands I object to and I also feel for those for whom this presents a real problem.

OTOH there's no way to raise this without looking miserable and tight.

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Mammyloveswine · 22/01/2020 21:13

It's a pain... we do collections for immediate team birthdays but two people haven't paid so I've had to fork out for their contribution this time as felt bad for my colleague...I feel tight now asking for 2 quid each!

Lipperfromchipper · 22/01/2020 21:16

Maybe 3/4 times a year? It doesn’t bother me at all though. I suppose because it’s not very often!

Likethebattle · 22/01/2020 21:32

In one place it was bloody constant! One woman even brought in her husbands sponsor form....I’d never met him and was struggling for money. We all passed on it and she got arsey ‘do you not want to sponsor ‘sam’, it’s for the ‘insert charity here’! ‘ I made a stand, I’d sponsor her if she did anything but not a stranger!

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SuperMeerkat · 22/01/2020 21:35

In our work it’s significant birthdays, babies, leaving, Secret Santa. Never known the like of it! I unashamedly never contribute unless I particularly like the person.

aibutohavethisusername · 22/01/2020 21:36

In one of my previous jobs it felt constant. Probably was a few times a month. In my current job is never, thankfully.

UnleashTheFury · 22/01/2020 21:42

Where is work we have to give £5 everytime that;

  • someone gets engaged
  • someone gets married
  • someone moves house
  • special aged birthday
  • new baby
  • long term sick
  • promotion

Which means I’m paying at least £10 per month sometimes more.

What isn’t fair is that the people high up pay £5 (on their gigantic salaries)
And the poor young trainees on shut wage pay the same.

It should be a percentage of your pay or however much you can afford

NewNameGuy · 22/01/2020 21:43

That sounds ridiculous

Tinofcurses · 22/01/2020 21:45

We're a small team (6 women) who (apart from the manager) all earn about the same. We buy pretty big gifts for leaving/maternity leave/bereavement and each pay an equal share.

It's really not optional, there's no way I could decide not to contribute if money was tight (or I didn't like the person who was leaving) but it doesn't come up that often.

We're never asked to contribute to gifts for the wider organisation, and I don't think I've been asked for a charity donation. Occasionally someone will leave a sponsorship form in the kitchen with a poster/note

Weetabollocks · 22/01/2020 21:46

Deceased parents of colleagues memorial funds?!

Fuck that

Cordial11 · 22/01/2020 21:46

At my work each team has a happiness budget every year from the company. That is used for sick flowers, new babies etc , it’s great!

Birthdays, you bring the cake!

ExpletiveDelighted · 22/01/2020 22:15

Leaving, getting married, having a baby, we each put in a tenner. Maybe twice a year.

Feedmylambs · 22/01/2020 22:23

In one place I worked there was always something. I never contributed. Ever. If I had a nice friendship with the person then I donated /sponsored because I wanted to or got them a little gift on my own, but the constant charity runs etc I just never bothered. I think there’s a huge difference between wanting to do something because it feels good and doing something because of what is essentially peer pressure.

CherryPavlova · 22/01/2020 22:26

We limit it a bit. Leavers have a collection but other gifts are down to individuals.
If someone is unwell for more than a few days, or bereaved line managers usually pay and send the flowers from everyone.
We don’t do birthdays. We don’t do baby showers. We don’t do engagement presents. We don’t do new house. We don’t do dead parents. If you’re promoted you bring the cake.
We do charity shop secret Santa.

boringbertha · 22/01/2020 22:29

Since I moved departments in same company I haven't had to put my hand in my pocket for anything, unlike previous dept where it felt like every flipping week. We also did a birthday club thing where you had to buy the person whose birthday it was after yours a present. To be fair it was optional to join but I naively agreed not knowing how stressful buying a present for someone you barely know was. It is just one of the many improvements to my working life that I now enjoyGrin

mrbob · 22/01/2020 22:30

Almost never thank god- once in a year for our very much loved boss’ 50th birthday which I am very happy to do. Otherwise there are so many people with birthdays, weddings, babies it gets stupid

Lovelydovey · 22/01/2020 22:31

Leaving presents only, and that’s optional. Maybe long term sick or a wedding at a push.

TippledPink · 22/01/2020 22:34

At least one thing a week, birthdays, engagements, weddings, passing an exam, moving house, bake sales.

Geraniumblue · 22/01/2020 22:52

In my old workplace it was constant. I stopped paying, unless it was a colleague who was also a friend. (I earn minimum wage). My new workplace - nothing!

PenelopeFlintstone · 22/01/2020 22:58

Charities - we don’t
Birthdays - a cake gets bought out of the tea and coffee money, which is a pound a week each and optional
We can choose to pay £2.50 a fortnight into another account which covers our Christmas lunch and Christmas dinner. This is called the social club and would also be used for flowers, but they’re rarely sent.
No other calls for money at all.

Lyricallie · 22/01/2020 23:04

Hardly ever. We do McMillan's coffee morning but you can just not go to that if you don't want to pay. Last year it was right at the beginning of Lent so I avoided all the cakes. We'll maybe all sign a card for someone leaving or birthdays. My boss buys me an Easter egg which is nice of him. Oh and we get a "free" Christmas dinner from the work canteen that we are expected to donate money to the chosen charity that we all vote for.

BrokenWing · 22/01/2020 23:22

Collections for leaving do's and significant events only. An envelope and card are sent around and you sign /contribute as much/little as you want. All anonymous.

Charity donations /sponsorship requests etc, office policy is you are allowed to email office distribution list once and that's it. No direct pressure or asking directly allowed. There is a dress down day with a collection tin but no pressure to put in.

Work well.

Comefromaway · 22/01/2020 23:35

Never

There is a lottery syndicate but not everyone has chosen to join. And someone normally does a Grand National/ Euro/World Cup sweepstake.

On birthdays the birthday person buys cakes for the rest of the office.

FruityWidow · 22/01/2020 23:51

At my old job it was every week because it was a big dept of over 40 people. In the 18 months I was there, there were 5 who went on maternity and a major restructure so many people left, retired early and got promoted plus all the weddings, birthdays and condolences flowers in between. An envelope went round with the card but I rarely put any coins in. Now I work from home so it's just dh scrounging for cash these days.

BackforGood · 22/01/2020 23:52

Charity donations in memory of deceased parents

eh?
that's just weird Confused

We put a (voluntary) tenner in at the beginning of a year (no-one chases if you don't, and it is suggested that those on a lower grade only put a fiver in). That covers if we want to send flowers, and 'Big' birthdays.
Don't do the 'dress down charity days'
People occasionally bring in a sponsor form or put an e-mail around if they are doing something for a cause close to their heart's but it is just mentioned once to let people know and no pressure for anyone to give
Some people do a Secret Santa - but it is definitely 'opt in' rather than 'refuse to join' and fewer than half do, from what I gather.

Any money asked for, is certainly "tick when you've seen the envelope" and there is no checking up if you have put anything in.

managedmis · 23/01/2020 01:06

Not that much really. They have one bug charity drive at work per year, then they had one today about the bushfires.