Inconsiderate people - tips needed!

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How do you deal with it if it isn't flat-out cheeky fuckery, just a lack of consideration for people around them?

It's death by a thousand cuts type thing - each thing is small and a bit pathetic in isolation. Examples would be, having a loud party and not even thinking to let me know so I can sleep in the other room, loud late night goodbyes and car doors slamming, inconsiderate parking etc

I have mentioned specific things in the past and they are very apologetic and nice, but I'd rather they just gave a thought in the first place. I don't want to be that crank who curtain twitches every second and bustles out to make demands on principle etc. And I definitely don't want a dispute or aggro!

But I also don't want it to become the norm that I am always having to accommodate their life at my inconvenience, and end up resenting coming home.

Tips for handling people who wander through life like this?

I think with things that small you just have to work on yourself to be able to handle them better. Find coping mechanisms that will enable you to accept and be calmer about them so you don't find yourself getting so worked up on the 15th example of a tiny thing.

A loud party past 11pm at night I would go around and have a polite word over. Loud farewells at the neighbour's door and car door slamming I suspect you need to breathe a deep breath and try not to let it affect your life. I know it's easier said than done, but such it is. One needs to pick battles. Have you considered sleeping with white noise? That helps me sleep through all the small irritant noises that'll come with loud farewells and car door slamming. I hope it'll help you.

Thanks Damn

Things like the car doors and shouting usually wake me up from a deep sleep (it's like 2-3am!). I do also sleep with talk radio on low. I have told them my bedroom window faces their door and she was very apologetic...but then it happens again (I guess when drink is taken, they forget)

Other stuff directly affects me, where it means I am physically inconvenienced - their friends are parked in my space "for a minute" when I need to leave or arrive (which is never a minute, is it); or they just block me in longer term without so much as a quick knock to say "just let me know if you need to get out and we'll move immediately".

It always puts the onus on me to be the one asking them to move off my land etc. I wouldn't dream of acting like that so I think I find it hard when people are so thoughtless.