My life and health will improve if I lose weight, so why don't I?

[elsaandanna]

It's quite possible I have a screw lose.
A fat child turned into a very fat adult.
I am now 6 stones overweight. It's making me tired and ill. Physically drained with aches and pains. High blood pressure.
I know what I should eat. I just eat everything else as well. I went to slimming world and hated it.
I tried hypnosis and it didn't work.
Why cant my brain make the link? DH doesn't care/notice.
It's like I have a food death wish.

I really struggle with this as well, you are not alone!

There are extensive issues with food within my family and I have one friend who is literally killing herself slowly.

My friend is at risk of type 2 diabetes and has been sent on a course. She had a very controlling childhood, she always abided by her parents rules. It wasn’t around food though it was their incredibly old fashioned attitude to relationships, no sex before marriage. She also went on holiday with them every year. I think they wanted her to stay as a child.

We are five sisters, three over eat and are overweight to levels like yourself and two have type 2 diabetes. The other two including myself tend to under eat. I have the least issue with food but it’s still there. We had really terrible childhoods.

I would look to your past.

OP, I was also a fat child who became a fat adult, and am now a much less fat adult. So many issues with food which I won’t detail here, but I can recommend Rebelfit. Good for examining and resetting your relationship with food in a supportive way. It’s not a quick fix but it worked for me.

I know someone like this, she had a gastric band. Everyone was really shocked she would go to that extreme, they wondered why she didn't just diet & exercise.
The truth was she was addicted to food - had tried every diet under the sun.
She needed medical help.
It's been tough for she, but she's still now slim and has been for a few years and makes a lot of effort to exercise to keep the weight off (some thing she couldn't do/wasn't motivated to do when she was obese).
I know it's not an easy path (she paid privately - £10k) but it worked for her and in her words - she got her life back and now will hopefully life a long and healthy life.

I thought about gastric band, but I think I'd be one of those who just liquidised mars bars!

I need the missing link in my brain.

I can't think of anything specific in my childhood. It was a bit odd but I can't put my finger on anything. I could eat a multipack of kit kats without being told off. Mum was plump not fat, dad thin.

DH doesn't have any vices or tendencies so he is devoid of any advice or understanding. Your body, your choice.

Chocolate Swiss Roll is not a normal breakfast

Do you live food or just junk food?

Start cooking interesting and tasty food - don't make diet food, but make healthy food, lots of veg.

You need to change your palate.
Forget about dieting...
Eat well for a few months and you will wean yourself off junk - it tastes like crap when you compare it to good homemade food.

It doesn't have to take too much time.
I love salads that are full of tasty things like halloumi, figs, etc they are really quick and really filling and definitely not diet food.

Me too op. I'm better than I was but really struggle with this. At worst I feel my binging is essentially self harm.

I love wine too but have the ability to apply the off switch there, choosing just to have a glass or two or not drink at all. I don't understand why I can't do that with food, I just feel totally deprived.
When I did lose loads of weight it was through as a pp said making luxury but lower calorie and fat meals, having a job which meant I couple build in opportunities to walk lots into the working day but also finding my willpower. I don't know where it is now, maybe I ate it.

I did get a fitbit for Christmas which is helping. Started to track food using the app but quickly gave up. I might start again this weekend.