Do you think it weird to ask someone in their wedding day if they are happy ?

[Lardlizard]

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Yes

I guess if it's in a 'oh are you happy with how the day is going?' lighthearted context then no, but if it's a proper sit down 'tell me, are you truly happy?' thing, then yes, that's strange!

This exact question was asked before by an OP determined to find fault with whoever asked her. I don’t personally find it odd, even if it’s asked in the more existential sense, rather than ‘Are you happy with how the day is going?’

Women in particular are still often socialised to think it is supposed to be the happiest day of their lives, yet Mn is full of people saying how little they enjoyed their own weddings, because they found them stressful and exhausting.

It’s probably an example of small talk that some people seem to take far to seriously.

I dont think its strange at all. My grandfather asked my mother if she was happy and if she was sure she wanted to go through with the wedding. She was and she did. What about people who are not happy but no one acknowledges it and they feel forced to go along with it.

It depends how they said it I suppose. It would be OK if they said it in a positive way, presuming you would give a gushing reply "oh yes, this is the happiest day of my life, isn't everything going well, etc".

If they said it with a dour expression then yes that would be a bit unusual.

It's just making conversation, surely? Unless someone is sitting you down and staring intently into your eyes, holding your hand, and following it up in "are you really sure?" (Awaits epic dripfeed...)

Happy about what?

In a deep way meaning are you truly happy with this choice you’re making, I would find a bit much.

Asking if someone is happy how the day is going is normal I would have thought? I’ve usually asked that to people on their wedding days just because I’m trying to think of what to say.

Didn't Kate apparently ask William that on their wedding day?

On the face of it, its a question people ask when they fully expect to get a positive reply - "oh yes, deliriously so!". Like when people give you a wonderful gift and they ask you anyway, when you are beaming and gushing about it!

Depending on context, it could be much more sneaky and malicious.

i think on the morning of a wedding, its a good idea to ask someone if theyre happy- it turns out lots of people arent and it might be if they had that chance to talk...

Come to think of it there have been at least two or three posters on a recent thread about (I think) splitting up and seeking a divorce within a short time of marrying who have said they were grateful to close relatives who said to them on or just before their wedding day 'Just remember that if you don't want to go through with this, we'll support you -- don't feel you have to.'

My dad adores my DH. They have a great relationship and spend a lot of time together on a shared hobby and have done since we met.

The morning of our wedding my dad asked me if I was absolutely sure I was happy and I definitely wanted to marry him today because I just had to give the word and he'd cancel everything.

Nothing to do with my DH or our relationship he just wanted to give me the opportunity to run like hell if I needed it and it made me feel incredibly loved.