Is my marriage over?

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I have been in a relationship with my husband for 15 years now married for nearly 7. For the last week he has not spoken to me, he is sleeping in the spare room and we are sitting in separate rooms in the evening when he is home apparently I have done nothing for him to be like this. I don’t no what to do. I just feel numb when I look at him is this our relationship over? We don’t have any joint friends and he doesn’t like socialising. He works away for 4 days a week so I don’t see him I just feel lonely. I don’t no what to do 😢

Poor you - get divorce advice and sort out finances. Once you have a clear idea of your rights stop being his victim and get shot. Maybe he will come round, maybe not but you must know how badly he is behaving. You deserve much better

Would he be up for a date night? My Husband and I started this when the kids were small and we operated mostly as Mum and Dad. It's great to have a change of scene, to get dressed up for each other and to enjoy a nice meal or a drink. One on one quality time reminds you of why you fell in love all those years ago.

Is it too far gone to make small talk? Be the bigger person and ask what’s up. What makes him laugh? What makes him forgive you in a millisecond?
If I’ve pissed him indoors off I can guarantee a trump or a dad joke will clear the air. Then we can start the blame game.
Chin up, I hope you get to the bottom of it soon!

He hadn’t spoken to you for a week?! Does he often do this?

If we did a date night I think we would just sit in silence if I’m honest he isn’t one for small talk and when I have tried to speak to him and ask him what’s wrong I just get short answers. It’s like he doesn’t even want to try and speak. The atmosphere in the house is not good and not fair on our daughter. He goes back to work tomorrow and is away for 4 days and to be honest I am looking forward to not having to tread on egg shells around my own home. I hate the thought of being a single mum I can’t do it on my own

Help him pack! Tell him to pack enough to last him until he finds a new place. Unless of course he has an epiphany, I wouldn’t welcome him back

It sounds like you're already doing it on your own OP. I'm sorry love.

You're already mostly a single mum. His silence makes you anxious. You walk on eggshells around him. What does he bring to the family other than misery? Dump his sulky sorry arse. You and your DD deserve better. Once he is gone from your life, your confidence will return.