Using maiden name again

[daintytoes]

I know I can google, however coming to MNers as I like the advice that goes along with the information

I have recently separated from my husband and although I have seen a solicitor I have not yet started the divorce ball rolling.

We married 5 years ago and I will be moving out of the family home.

I really really don't want to continue using my married name (in all honesty I actually wish I'd never changed it in the first place). I'm just wondering whether I can just go back to using my maiden name once I've changed it with the bank, DVLA, work etc? Or do I need to wait until the official divorce papers are through?

Also, can I go back to using Miss or will I be a Ms?

Thanks

Thanks aderyn my name isn't on any bills except home insurance and council tax, but will be sure to get that sorted

Oh that was a good feeling....

I spent a couple of hours moving all bills to my name and my personal bank account and then CLOSED the joint one (where only I was putting in money anyway, but ex was quite happy to spend).

As the main wage earner I didn't even consider my ex was financially abusive, but it turns out he was that as well as many other things.

Turns out I can manage money and that I'm not 'just like your Dad'.
Bad mouthing family is a common tactic among the emotionally abusive I learnt.

One of the issues I'm having is changing the name on my gmail account. Which of course isn't possible.

I know I can just get a new account with my maiden name - but my whole life, stretching back more than 10 years, is in my current gmail. Banking, tax, pensions, receipts, house documentation, children's stuff, recipes, travel... All neatly labelled and filed, so I can always find stuff.

I know that I can keep this and get a new one, but I know that in practise it will become muddled over time.

You can change your account name.

I changed my name back, I didn't get divorced, I'm still happily married but regretted taking his name. You need your birth certificate and marriage certificate, you don't need anything else. You are perfectly entitled to use your maiden name, there is no law on names, you can call yourself whatever you like in theory. Maiden and married names are just convention.

I found email hardest too, my maiden name wasn't available in the format I wanted..

You can change your account name. Yes, you can change how your name appears in the header, but you need to create a new account if you want a new email address.

So I have
From : Rightsof Maidenname

I reverted before my divorce was finalised. I found it easier to do a free deed poll online as a few places wanted the decree absolute which I didn't have. I also couldn't find my marriage certificate. The bank were even iffy about taking the deed poll because it was printed and didn't have a red seal (it doesn't need this) even though I had my birth certificate and I've banked with them since I was 18 when I had that name. They accepted it in the end. Having the deed poll was definitely easier though as it would have been even harder without it.

It's a bit depressing that it's so much easier to change to a married name with the bank, than it is to revert to your maiden name

Dainty toes you get a legal certificate when you get married, you can be married with a special licence within a week- not a quick or easy to divorce...

Ah ivy I know

Anyway onwards and upwards now!

I've potentially secured a rental today with a moving in date for 2 weeks

Good luck with name change. I also wanted to say it’s your birth name - maiden name is a load of sexist tosh.

Birth name!! YES to that!!!