How do I un-offend new friend?

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So I don't have many friends but I have started doing a degree course and was hoping to maybe make some more.

Anyway, I've really clicked with another woman on my course and we've been chatting on WhatsApp about coursework etc.

I was struggling a bit and my possible new mate very kindly offered to send me her assignment.

It really helped me a lot but as I worked through it I found a couple of errors. I pointed them out via WhatsApp...quite gently or so I thought.

The next day a message had come through that she had already sent in her final draft before my comments.

I feel a bit of a clutz but laughed it off. I know. Stupid response but I would have laughed it off myself.

I've sent the odd message since but met with emoji responses etc.

I cant just text out of the blue a sorry in case I look like some sort of stalker weirdo especially as there is a possibility she may just be busy.

I'm hoping to hear from her next week because results are out. How can I bring it up and apologise. I expect her to get a great mark because she is very clever (as well as super nice.)

Any advice gratefully received because I am drawing a blank...unless I just chalk up my foot in mouth incident to experience and hope she eventually warms up and I make other friends in the meantime!!!

I would not mention it again and see if it blows over.

I suppose it depends how you worded it when you pointed it out to her?

Dont mention it- it makes you look a bit clingy and weird.

Wait and see. If she seems upset with you then ask her whats wrong and THEN mention it. But dont mention it now as otherwise you'll be making a big deal out of something that isn't

If you think that was bad just wait until you get a better mark than her even though you copied her assignment!

Seriously, don’t mention it again, and don’t ask to copy her work again.

I dont think you can go back on something like this since you dont know each other that well yet.
To sum up, she showed you her assignment, which she had worked hard on, to help you...and you decided to point out the errors in it.
This is so mean!
Never criticise someones work unless they specifically ask you to...even then, only mention a couple of things. You're not the teacher.
I doubt if you are friends anymore so just move on....but she'll probably tell everyone on the course what you did.

If she has a family - and she's doing a degree course - she probably doesn't have time to respond to a stream of messages.
I don't want 24/7 contact with friends, still less from acquaintances. When you see her, thank her for sharing the assignment and say it was a help, that's all.

I'd probably bring it up. I'd say as close to the truth as possible. Something along the lines of what you've already said here:

"I am feeling awful about picking fault in your essay after you were so kind as to let me read it. It was a really rude and insensitive thing for me to do, especially as I know you're really clever (and super nice) and going to get a great mark. I don't know what came over me, and I feel dreadful about the possibility that I offended you."

I genuinely was trying to help. I thought she'd turned in the draft for review not the final.

If I get a better mark, I'll just fib.

No wonder I don't have many friends. What an idiot.

She'll hate you a lot more if you both get done for collusion because she has sent you her submitted assignment that you then "worked through"

Don't see why it was mean to point out factual errors in her work, though; if it had been before the deadline, she might have liked to correct them.

I just checked my wording...said something along the lines of that question is weirdly worded. She agreed. I said I might answer it differently. Then I asked if shed had any feedback. That's when it came to light....I laughed and jokingly said the lecturer thought mine was brilliant. I was being sarcastic because I thought we both understood how rubbish I am at the subject. I am wondering if she thought I was serious. Oh man.

Shall I still ignore and hope it blows over??

Katy that was what I thought I was doing! Sigh.

We wont get done for collusion. I just cross referenced some mathematics. I did not copy any essay work.

"I just cross-referenced some mathematics"? So copied hers/checked your answers against hers?

No, you probably won't get done, then, but you have colluded. Or committed academic misconduct. Or cheated. Mind you, as long as it's not a course where there's professional standards - health care, law, policing etc- it doesn't really matter, as nowadays, people aren't thrown off their degrees, and there are many ways to explain away the zero on a transcript.

If you are finding it so difficult that you need to "cross reference" someone else's work, though, you really ought to speak with your tutor and the study skills support team.

Sarcasm is hard to pull off over text and emails.

As some one who frequently gets things wrong and offends people I would just have a word in person next time you see her.

Be honest, you think you might have blundered in and offended her. Apologise.

I have also learnt to apologise once for things. People who make a meal out of genuine misunderstandings are too hard work.

I did the work myself then checked my answers against hers. I didn't know that was collusion. Yes, I should have gone to the lecturer, you are right.

She offered to send me her essay for that reason because I lacked confidence in my ability to do it.

I will downplay my mark and never speak about it again.