42 and tempted to have another baby

[Lardlizard]

Or give it a try at least

I personally think 42 is too old to have a newborn.
Unless, you don’t have children already I wouldn’t

All depends on circumstance. If you want advice and opinions, can you give some details?

I had my third last year at almost 43.

I had ds at 43. 2.

Well by the time the baby arrived I’d be at least 43

To other that have had baby’s at this age how did you find it ?

Easy. As I said on another thread, a 5 year old at 48 was more of a challenge but well worth it. My lovely 16 year old DD is in the kitchen cooking dinner, a friend of hers is coming round to eat and they will go off to arse around and do what 16 year olds do and DH and I will watch the Downton film. It's my 60th next weekend and she has really helped plan the party, especially the playlist!

I had a baby a month shy of my 43rd birthday last year and I wouldn't change a thing. I also have 2 teenagers. A poster above has said 42 is too old for a newborn, unless you don't have children already. I've found that 42 is a perfect age to have a baby. The 2 older kids absolutely adore the baby and as they aren't young children themselves any more, it's not as hard as when you have, for example, a baby and a toddler.

Plenty of men become fathers in their 40s and 50s and no one ever says they are "too old" to become fathers. Everyone's circumstances are different but if you want a baby, your partner is on board, and it won't have a negative effect on any other children you have (e.g. it won't stretch finances too far), then go for it. And good luck!

How do I un-offend my new friend?

So I don't have many friends but I have started doing a degree course and was hoping to maybe make some more.

Anyway, I've really clicked with another woman on my course and we've been chatting on WhatsApp about coursework etc.

I was struggling a bit and my possible new mate very kindly offered to send me her assignment.

It really helped me a lot but as I worked through it I found a couple of errors. I pointed them out via WhatsApp...quite gently or so I thought.

The next day a message had come through that she had already sent in her final draft before my comments.

I feel a bit of a clutz but laughed it off. I know. Stupid response but I would have laughed it off myself.

I've sent the odd message since but met with emoji responses etc.

I cant just text out of the blue a sorry in case I look like some sort of stalker weirdo especially as there is a possibility she may just be busy.

I'm hoping to hear from her next week because results are out. How can I bring it up and apologise. I expect her to get a great mark because she is very clever (as well as super nice.)

Any advice gratefully received because I am drawing a blank...unless I just chalk up my foot in mouth incident to experience and hope she eventually warms up and I make other friends in the meantime!!!

Fuuuuckkkkk I was trying to add a post. Backs slowly out of the room....

You may want to start your own thread @Hotorcoldmakeupyourmind to get some appropriate responses

Haha cross post!

OP I was 39 having my youngest. Go for it!

I am 42 and my youngest are 12.
I suddenly this week realized my child birthing days are over.
I suddenly wanted a baby!!!

I actually dont. I have raised 4 dc.
I hate the though that my reproductive years are done. I loved being pregnant and I love newborns. However I am done. I am now grandma ready

I've been trying for my 4th for 20 months. I started when I was 39, I'm now 41, 42 this year... Its harder to get pregnant at this age

I had dd at 27 and ds at 36.

I found my pgy much harder with ds and the newborn stage fucking relentless. Much harder than dd, despite being a single parent to dd. I am currently 42 and would definitely not want another but I feel my family is complete.

Not much difference to how I feel with a 6 year old ds and a 30 something with a 7/8/9 year old tbh. And I have noticed that at the school gates I am not the oldest mum either.

I always said that however many kids I had at 40 was the number I'd stick with. I have 2, the youngest is 5 (I'm 43). No way would I go back to newborn stage, even if money was no object.

Do you already have children? If so, how old are they?

Easy. Go for it if you want to

@Lardlizard DD has just slotted into our family and we just cannot imagine life without her. My other children absolutely adore her. Physically I had a horrendous pregnancy but that's the same as my other pregnancies so nothing different there . I found the newborn stage absolutely fine.

Do you have any kids op?

I had my daughter at 43yrs and not finding it too hard work.. I'm loving it so would definitely say 43 is not too old!!

I'd say go for it.

It's harder to fall pregnant than the actual newborn stage.

I had mine at 42. I know plenty of mums around my age - some had children already, some didn't. I didn't find the newborn stage particularly hard, but then I've nothing to compare it to. I took the year off and loved maternity leave with her. She's eight now and we have so much fun together!

I had DD (DC2) at nearly 42, after 4 years of trying and multiple mc. It's tiring and occasionally I feel ancient but it's also been an absolute joy and has given me a new focus and new lease of life.

The thing I'd caution against is that your age means that you are more likely to have a mc so you may want to put a time or pregnancy limit on it. I almost feel like I lost a few years to the pregnancies and miscarriages and I feel some guilt towards my first DC.

Only you know how this new DC would fit in with your life and your family and whether you could cope with any complications that might come along the way.

Oh and also to add my pregnancy was a complete and utter shock it was obviously a contraception failure as we have always been very careful . My other two children were planned so obviously no issue with my fertility at all despite my age.