I’ve been musing recently on the difficulty of commenting on threads when one doesn’t know the full story. For example, it was my birthday yesterday. DH had to be reminded to get me a card and he didn’t give me a present. Now if I had simply posted that, people would probably criticise him. However, the full story is that I have had shingles since before Christmas and he has been focusing on looking after me. I only reminded him about the card because I knew he would be mortified on the day if he had forgotten. In addition, I am impossible to buy surprise presents for and he knew I wouldn’t be in a position to think what I would like. Completely different angle.
Has anybody else seen the video I saw on a training session ages ago. It shows a young black man pushing an elderly white woman to the ground. People are asked for their instinctive reactions. The expectation is that people would think he’s a thief, attacking the woman. In fact he has seen that something is about to fall and hit her so he is saving her by pushing her out of the way. Again, different perceptions with full facts.