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DD (15.5) no periods. When to be concerned?

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Hellvelyn · 17/01/2020 22:53

DR (15.5) hasn't started her periods. She has quite a small build (5ft 3ish) and probably about 7.5 stone. Should I be worried? She is concerned and has concluded that "it's never going to happen"

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CmdrCressidaDuck · 19/01/2020 19:36

Worth taking her to the GP if either of you are worried, but I am guessing they will see it as within the range of normal, especially given that she is small, slim and active. I am ditto, was always small for my age and skinny but healthy and fit, bone age tracking 2-3 years behind. I started at 16 and wasn't regular for a while after that. Very fertile and regular as an adult, although I am still tiny and fairly slim.

ShakeItUp · 19/01/2020 20:01

@Londonborncatty I've not heard of that. I will mention it to her. Thanks 🙂
Every female on both sides of the family hit puberty prior to becoming a teen. The females on my side of the family all ended up with huge busts and no fertility problems, she bucked the trend in that regard.
She's married and so far neither her or her husband want children.
I offered to pay for her to have a boob job, just enough to fill an A cup if needs be, but she refused, saying it's how she is and anyone with an issue with it can bugger off. At least she's positive I suppose. 🙂

Londonborncatty · 19/01/2020 21:02

Shake it up I love the sound of your daughter, she sounds like she has a great attitude. An Endocrinologist would be a good place to start. It’s not about changing your daughter but making sure the lack of estrogen doesn’t affect her negatively ie her bone density.
Anyway, I’m sure your daughter will decide what’s best for her! Best wishes.

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ShakeItUp · 19/01/2020 21:06

Thanks @Londonborncatty 🙂 attitude is something she's not short of.
I will pass on what you said though, it might pick up something that may have been missed. 🙂

GothMummy · 19/01/2020 21:10

I was 16, very slim and active at the time so I wouldn't think 15/16 is unusual.

Drum2018 · 19/01/2020 21:14

I was nearly 16. I remember praying for them to start. Now I'm late 40's I'm praying for them to stop Grin. I'd wait til she's 16 before going to gp.

NC4THISandTHAT · 19/01/2020 21:17

I'd say she's underweight so...

Yesyesitsme · 19/01/2020 21:41

She's not underweight. According to the NHS BMI calculator, she's 24th centile which is well within the healthy range.

Yesyesitsme · 19/01/2020 21:43

That's assuming she's 7 and a half stone. If she's 7st 5lb then she's 19th centile - still well within the healthy range.

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Hellvelyn · 19/01/2020 21:43

Thanks for all your thoughts. DD definitely looks younger than she is. I'd say she looks about 13 (she'd hate me for saying that) but definitely has the capability and attitude of a 15 year old!

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Hellvelyn · 19/01/2020 21:46

And if tonight is anything to go by, lack of food isn't an issue. Two helpings of filled pasta and pesto followed by two helpings of apple crumble and ice cream. Good job she wasn't going dancing after that lot!

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PlanDeRaccordement · 19/01/2020 21:47

I started at 16 but only had one period that year. Didn’t properly start until 18. I am petite and was very very sporty (endurance athlete). My DD1 who takes after me started at 16, but by DD2 who takes after her dad started at 14.

I think your DD will start soon.

Bumblesbumbles · 20/01/2020 06:55

I would just take her to the gp... they can do some simple initial blood tests and check BMI. If required further follow up. If it’s something like coeliac disease it’s better not to leave it- eating lots and not putting on weight can be a symptom as can delayed puberty

lilgreen · 20/01/2020 07:00

DD1 started at16+1. DD2 at 14, me at just before 14.

lilgreen · 20/01/2020 07:02

I’d wait until after 16. DD’s were irregular after she started and she had about 6 a year. Gp wasn’t concerned saying it can take awhile to settle (mine did too) and so they got more regular at 18/19.

lilgreen · 20/01/2020 07:26

The reason I delayed taking my DD to the GP is I didn’t want her to have unnecessary tests and feel as though something was wrong when she was still within normal range. She had developed properly in other ways and wasn’t really bothered. Occasionally she’d mention it and I’d say we could get some blood tests and she’d say no let’s wait. Be guided by her at this stage. The day she started at 16 was so unexpected. She was alone at home, just about to go out to meet a boy. Talk about timing! She wasn’t impressed.

Yesyesitsme · 20/01/2020 07:56

NHS advice is to take to the GP at 15 so I'm not sure why so many are advising to wait until 16?

It nearly always turns out ok but there are some causes that would be better identified sooner rather than later.

lilgreen · 20/01/2020 07:57

Because it normally always turns out ok and so many start at around 16.

Jeleste · 20/01/2020 08:05

I never got mine until i was put on the pill at 17. I have PCOS.
I went off the pill at 21 and only got my period once every 6 months or so and only very lightly for 1-2 days.
When i wanted to conceive i went to see a specialist and she put me on meds to give me regular cycles. All worked out well.

Ludways · 20/01/2020 11:20

I was 15yr 4m, my sister was 17, she is type 1 diabetic, so delayed. Both very sporty.

I once watched a program with Prof Winston, when he said periods start at about 7.5 stone, but obviously that's an average.

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