son's friend suicidal thoughts :(

[LayAllYourLoveOnMe]

Can I just check whether I've done all that needs doing here.

Last night teenager X confided in his two mates (my son and another close mutual friend teenager Y) that he has suicidal thoughts :(

My son reported this in at school today then told me.
I've told my son to be a staunch friend and that he has to think of this as being long term i.e. not give more in the moment than is sustainable/consistent.

I've texted both teenager X's mum and teenager Y's mum to say that teenager X has told my son he is feeling very low.

Do I need to go further and spell out to teenager X's mum that teenager X expressed suicidal thoughts? That is the only thing I have held back on.

Teenager X has good family support.

just bumping.

I think I would tell her, yes, but it is a tricky one.

I would tell this boys parents, you'll regret it if you don't.

thanks for replying. It's hard yes but not as hard as it is for her. I think I need to spell out to the mother that there was talk of ending his life.

I think u have done fine. We had this. But ours was a text message from her friend to say she was taking pills. We couldn’t get hold of her didn’t know where she lived so ended up calling the police.
The conversation that I had with my husband at the time was .... we would have wanted to know if this was our child. You did the correct thing in my opinion. The child may not thank you now. But you did the right thing.

And yes I would yell the parents everything. X

ok done. That was a hard text to send. Done now though.

thanks all.

You've done the right thing. At least the parents can offer support and encourage him to seek help with his dark thoughts.

thanks. I feel for them.

You've done the right thing.

I was the other Mum in this situation, my son was 11 years old, it was hard to hear but I was and still am grateful that 1 of my DS' friends was brave enough and cared enough to speak up.

The school contacted me to let me know and the boys parent approached me at school one day to make sure that I was aware and that DS was ok.

That boys statement at school led to my DS getting fast tracked intervention from our local CAMHS unit which helped all of us understand what was going on and gave DS a safe outlet.

Thank you for caring - it really will mean the world to his parents and in time, the friend too.

OP just wanted to make you aware of the charity PAPYRUS, for prevention of teen suicide. They have a helpline and I rang when in a similar situation to you and they were helpful and lovely. You might want to make your ds aware of them too. I hope his friend is okay.

thank. DS is of course now concerned about breaking confidence but it wasn't our secret to keep.

Hope it all turns out well.