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Has anyone had experience of being in a relationship with someone who suffers with sexsomnia?
I am in a year long relationship and this past weekend was the third occasion that DP began groping me during the night. It is also the third time that I have slept with him on a night where he had had too much to drink.
After it happened on the 2nd occasion I discussed this with him (the first time was the first night I slept with him and I thought he was awake, but now know he wasn't), he definitely did not know what he had done during the night and was as shocked as I was. He agreed to cut down his drinking as this seemed to be the trigger. Everything has been fine since, if he has a few glasses of wine or drinks in moderation then things are fine. This past weekend he drank a lot at a function, this time it was different, in that he seemed more determined if that is how I can word it. I woke him on numerous occasions to roll over and stop it, which worked for a while, then it continued. I did eventually have to sleep in the other room.
I have considered ending it over this. But then the other part of thinks about how I know him. This is so out of character as he is such a gentle person, is not aggressive or like that at all. He clearly doesn't remember doing it, and is just as devastated.
I have read up a bit about it, strangely enough he has just been diagnosed with sleep apnoea and will be getting a breathing machine to use at night within the next few weeks.
I just don't know how I feel about this. I was very upset as I felt violated. But then, I know he didn't purposely do it, and it is a sleep disorder. I have told him I need a bit of breathing space so have agreed not to see each other this week or weekend until I can just get my head around this.
I can't talk to anyone I know about it. If I can chat it out with someone else who has been in this situation, I would really appreciate any words or advise.