Asked out for coffee 🙄🍵

[poloarpanda123]

Hi all.

I'm 39 and separated from husband 5 years ago. We have 3 children (oldest 10).
I recently moved to my area and speak to mums at school but don't really have any other friends as such around here.
I've never had (nor wanted) any kind of relationships/dates since we split and still don't.
Anyway, one of the dads who says hi every now and again asked me if I'd like to go for coffee. It was very on the spot and I'm rubbish at saying what I think so I said yes that would be fine. He said then 'that made my day'. He seems polite and a nice person but he is quite a bit older than me . Any kind of date scares the hell out of me now and I'm just praying he means it just in a friendly way.
I'm going to see him every day picking the kids up from school.

I'd love to make some friends here as I work from home and it can be isolating but on the other hand, I don't want him to think I mean anything else by it.

What do I do?

Just go, you might have a really lovely day and on the chance he wants more, you just simply say you don’t see him that way or you’re not interested in dating anyone right now. He might even sway you. What’s the worst that can happen? You lose all chances of friendship with someone you wasn’t friends with in the first place?

I’d still go, you’ve agreed to and you’ll see him every day so could be awkward saying no. It’s only a coffee, if it was an evening meal or drink that would be different. Maybe he just wants to be friends too. Is there anyone else you could ask along? Tell him it’s nice to make some friends, as you work from home and it can be isolating etc

Just go and see how it goes. You can drop into convo that you're not really looking to date at the moment.

Just go. If you think it’s heading a way you don’t want to go, end it or make a decision not to repeat it again. At the worst you will feel slightly uncomfortable in a situation you can leave at any time. At the best, you will gain a friend and a coffee mate.

Thank you I'm such a worrier. I've in no way showed him any interest in any other way but just didn't know if accepting meant something else. As you can see I'm in terribly bad practice!! I literally have no social life either.

Go! So he might fancy you? How flattering. But it doesnt mean you have to jump into bed with him. If you dont fancy him you can make that clear in a kind way.

Shoe on other foot here, I asked someone out after separating from my ex, as I had the hots for him. He was very kind but made it clear it was social only. I was a bit disappointed at the time. We kept in touch and are now very close friends and I couldnt imagine being in a relationship with.

If you are not feeling it with him it is fine to say. And you might get a nice friend out of it as long as he doesnt have a massive ego.

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