What part of parenting are you good/bad at?

[TheBigFatMermaid]

Following on from a thread where I just admitted I am pretty bad at bed times and always have been... I know I'm not overall a bad parent. So, here is a place to tell us what parts of parenting you are good at and what you are bad at. The only rule is, there have to be at least twice as many good things as bad.

Ok, I'll start.

I am good at making time for my DC.

I am good at doing crafts with them.

I am pretty awesome, in that I pulled DD out of school to HE her when she needed me to.

I am good at my DC knowing where the boundaries are. If I say something like 'If you do that again, I'm having your phone', they absolutely know that if they do that again, I WILL have that phone!

I am rubbish at bedtimes. They are now 13 and 14 and I often go to bed before them.

I am rubbish at making DS do homework. I don't agree with it, so while I remind him, offer him help with it, I will not spend my previous evenings with my DS arguing with him about it.

Over to you,please do not forget the 2/1 ratio! It matters!

Oh and l can also be a bit harsh

Ds tried to sneak his tablet to bed last night l room it off him for a day so he hasn’t had it today. He tried again tonight so l have removed it for two weeks. Dh told me l am too Harsh with punishments.

I am good at (or like to think I'm good at)

• teaching them manners and how to be polite and kind.
• Making them feel loved and appreciated
• chatting to eldest DC about their day and breaking down the good and the bad
• taking them to exciting new places like museums and galleries
• dancing around the kitchen to silly songs
• making up songs and stories on the spot
• explaining things clearly but not being shy with the details

I'm bad at

• bed time. I'm just so tired and frazzled by this point I find it really stressful but I do love reading before bed
• being a bit snappy to my DS(3) and this has been exacerbated by being knackered by DS2 who is 14 weeks and doesn't like sleep (but I am good at apologising and taking him aside to apologise and work through how he felt)
• choosing dinners
• Lego. I hate the stuff and refuse to do it
• getting on the floor to play, it drives me mad. Lots of things can be done at a table but DS insists it has to be done on the floor
• enforcing screen time rules
• saying no, I'll often opt for the easy life. A chupa chup for breakfast won't hurt every once in a while right?

Looking at that, it looks like I'm much better at the really important stuff which makes me feel a bit better about my parenting right now.

Same as thestrangestthing. Crap at everything except apparently raising polite, well behaved children outside of the home. Teachers love them .
Everything else has gone to rack and ruin as they've got older.

@TheBigFatMermaid you're right, I forgot. Erm...

I'm good at keeping my little one busy most of the time. We're always at some sort of group or something!

Nice to read other people's comments on this thread too.

magimedi

well that sounds fantastic! Well down you!

Done... Not fucking down. Stupid phone.b

OH and I compliment each other’s strengths and weaknesses really well I think.

I’m the organiser, care giver, disciplinarian and big decision maker. If the dc are sad, worried, scared, ill etc I’m the one they come to to fix it.

OH truly understands how to engage them in play and fun like I never could. They seek him out to have fun and get the need for energetic games met. He brings a balance to my pragmatism and “lets be sensible” approach.

have become the most wonderful parent in the world with no faults.................

My DC is approaching 40 & lives in another country! grin

Magimedi, you have raised a truly independent child! Kudos!